Saturday, January 23, 2010

How do i deal with a narrow minded parent?

I'm 22 year old college living at home. Every time my mom and I have a disagreement about something she gets upset and threatens to hit me. She tells me I'll never be as wise as her and that having a college education is nothing compare to wisdom. She's so narrow-minded and thinks she's always right. It's like I'm living with a dictator or something. Should I just keep my mouth close and listen to everything she says or is it time to move out?How do i deal with a narrow minded parent?
Maybe she is right. I'll tell you this much - wisdom and experience beat education any day of the week.





I have kids and I find myself wanting to lecture them, but I still remember my youth. I didn't listen, I heard, but didn't listen. In all honesty most parents want to have their kids avoid the same mistakes they made. Your mom is looking out for you.





Here's one fact - it takes two to have an argument. Yeah best keep your mouth shut and at least hear what she has to say. You don't have to pay attention, don't visibly blow her off. Instead of argumentative remarks try 'thanks for the advice mom' and leave it at that. Maybe even think about what she had to say.





You other option is clear - move out. Build your own experience and wisdom.How do i deal with a narrow minded parent?
This is a case of mother being jealous of you because you are living the life that she wish she could live. If you can, I would move out to live your life the way you want to live it. Because if you keep your mouth close about this, what will be next, telling you how to dress and who to hang out with? I want to end this passage with this quote that I hold dear to when I encounter narrow-minded people:


POVERTY: It is not living in a small house, but living in a small mind. Do your thing and enjoy life.
If you have the means to move out, and if the relationship with your mom is causing you a great deal of stress, then move.





Maybe your mother is actually JEALOUS of the fact that you are going to college and she didn't... people have some strange ways of thinking..most parents would be thrilled for their child, but then there is that minority who has to be ';different';.
Move out! Trust me, you will get along with your parents a lot more when you do not live with them. Do whatever you have to do to get out of that situation, man, you're 22 years old of course you're not as wise as your mother, but that doesn't mean that you have to live with her and take crap that you don't want to.
Well lets see.. if u dont like it, move out, if u cant afford to move out then shut ur mouth do what your told until u can.. fact is as long as your financially dependent on your parents u have to live by their rules, adult or not, your still a kid if ur financially dependent on them.. if u dont like it.. get ur things and move out..
As long as you are living under her roof you should just listen, smile sweetly and say something like ';Maybe someday I'll be as wise and TOLERANT as you';. She does sound like a dictator but as I said, it's her house.
Experienced wisdom usually surfaces when one is independent. That would say, it may be time to try your wings.....鈾モ櫏

What parent would you pick to live with if they ever divorced and why?

This question is for the ones who are still in school and living with their parents.What parent would you pick to live with if they ever divorced and why?
I do have divorced parents and i'm only 13, but if I really had to pick I would choose my mom for reasons that are to personal to say.What parent would you pick to live with if they ever divorced and why?
My dad is dead... so it's kinda impossible for them to divorce.

What happens with child support if the custodial parent moves to another state?

What happens with child support if the custodial parent moves to another state? How is the jurisdiction handled for future child support issues?What happens with child support if the custodial parent moves to another state?
WELL I would suggest that you or the other parent contact the old jurisdiction and alert them of them move.


if that doesnt get your case transferred then you may need to file a motion to transfer jurisdiction


usually this is done when the parent has lived with the child in a new place for 6 months or so.





you need to do this because each state varies on its child support guidelines and you do not want to be on the short end of any sticksWhat happens with child support if the custodial parent moves to another state?
Unless either party file a motion for a change of venue, the case is remains where it originated. If u want it changed, u must file a change of venue.

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Generally: Unless the parties agree otherwise or both parents move out of the originating state or there is some emergency that requires another state's court to act, the originationg state retains exclusive jurisdiction for modification or enforcement.








** Note: The above is a general discussion of the subject matter of your question and not legal advice. Local laws or your particular situation may change the general rules. For a specific answer to your question you should consult legal counsel with whom you can discuss all the facts of your case. **



Nothing happens automatically to child support if the parent moves unless there is something stipulated in the divorce agreement. Jurisdiction is generally maintained by the court that handled the divorce, though this can vary greatly depending on the state law where the person moved to and from.
the order is still in effect..if his wages are garnished they will still be sent to you...my ex husband lives in NY and i live in NC....support was still sent, you can transfer the case to where you now live, but i figured since he was living/working in NY it was easier just to leave it.
Nothing changes, payment is still made to the custodial parent!
they mail em the checks at their new location.

How complicated is it to be a single parent?

I realize that by having both my husband and I in the home, we probably have some conveniences single-parents do not. One thing I thought of was returning babysitters home. How do you work through things like this? I realize there are hundreds of other differences/problems. What are they and how do you solve them?How complicated is it to be a single parent?
I find it a lot less complicated than my friends who are married. No one to answer too. If the house is a mess ...i don't have to worry about a husband coming home to be p'd off because it is not spotless. If we want to have an easy tea I don't have to worry about what the hubby will have. Only downside is no help for the things like outside maintanance of the house.. Being able to duck out for milk once the kids are asleep. As for babysitters I am very lucky as my parants are near by and I can leave them there or if it is a school night my mum comes here. There are a few downsides but really the stresses I see my friends have with husbands I am actually thankful I don't have their problemsHow complicated is it to be a single parent?
I have to agree with Rachel. There are a lot of things about my life as a single parent that are much easier than when I was married. I am in charge of my house, and if I can't get to the dishes today, no one's going to question why or put me down. I can make plans for myself and my child and not have to work around someone else's schedule. I get tons of one-on-one time with my son, because it's just the two of us (with a baby on the way).


Some things are a little more complicated. I can't just run to the store by myself if I'm out of eggs. I don't have anyone to help out if I'm sick; I just have to tough it out. I do rely more on babysitters than I would if I had a partner. (But I have great babysitters -- all old enough to have their own car, btw.) And sometimes it would be nice to have someone to step in and help with discipline when I'm frazzled and the boy's being a little you-know-what.


But it's mostly a wonderful thing. It's my life; I chose it and I love it; and I do the best I can.
single parent . it a very hard thing to do ,,,, it all go 24/7 it has it up and downs mainly down ,,, lack of money, housing , transport , you name it there ,, women have promblem coping with it too,,, they need family support but some have nobody ,,, as the kids reach teen years it get worse , in to trouble , loss respect blame there mother .. really is a life that no would wsh on anyone ,,, i not a single parent but work in social agency and seen it daily


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i am not a single parent myself,but i have to say i really admire and respect all the single parents out there.i know someone who is a single parent. she says its very hard trying to be mother and father both, but she says its very rewarding at the same time.
Well, like most single parents rely on other people beside babysitters. They rely on friends, and other relatives. My dad is sometimes gone for his work and we live around my mom's two best friends and my grandmother. We also have problems like my mom doesn't get off of work until 4:00pm but I get off of school at 2:45pm and my sister gets off at 3:15pm. So I ride the bus to the high school where my mom works and my sister and her best friend walk to her best friends house which is close to the school and are later picked up by my mom at 4:15pm.
It's definitely hard but if you want to have a kid than go ahead I wish you the best of luck.
You need to be organized and take no crap before it's time. Children sometimes argue with their parents, ask mom, ask dad, ask mom, ask dad and a single parent doesn't have time for this. It's definitely a hard job because there seems to be no time for yourself except in the car on the way to work. I rarely went out late, so babysitters weren't a problem because we took her home together. Sometimes when the only person you have to depend on is yourself you need to pick and choose what's important and do the best you can. You have to realize you cannot be all things to all people and get the kids to realize this, too. Some kids with 2 parents are in every activity. My kids could choose one club and one activity because I don't have time to be running around alot. But guess what -- when kids needed to be picked up for a club, the single parent did the picking up and the 2-parent families did nothing. So your life is what you make it.
being a single parent is very compliated. I my self never had to take the babysitter home. I all ways used neighbor or my mom and dad and they would keep my son over night. But as a single parent didid not go out very much by myself . What monley I did have to go play with I would use so I was able to do things with my son. I myself think thta some jof the hardest times was when he was sick and i had no one to help me take care of him or if i was sick no help but you just move on with life. Well today my son is 18 and in the Army so i think i did a very goood job at being a singel parent
Very. Both working to support your kids and helping them become something and finding time to your own personal development is commendable. I stand in awe of single moms.
I am a single dad. I have custody of my 10 year old girl and 6 year old boy. She is a deadbeat mother so i cannot rely on her for anything. I have had to turn down a promotion and take another position inside the company I work for. I took an 8-5 position so I could have a set time I would be home with my kids. I never have a lone time much less adult time. I do what i need to do for the kids.(they come first.) I drop them off at school, camp, sitters when I go to work and my brother picks them up and keeps them until I get home. I do all the cooking cleaning at the house I will ask for help from the kids. I have found that in my house I am 25% PARENT and 75% REFEREE. They do fight a lot over silly things but they are brother and sister and they also get along. I have had many complements on how good my kids are. So I have to be doing something right. I do get tired a lot. But It is worth every minute to have them safe with me.
well if I go out and get a sitter I ask them to stay over so that I don't have to wake the kids to get them home, I don't get to go to the store by myself so we have a routine, they each get three stickers, if they don't behave I take them away one at a time, at the end of the shopping trip, if they still have a sticker, they get a cookie from the bakery, that works for me, I think that single parents just have to be a little more organized, that's all.
it's easier for me being a single parent. my older son's father was less than great; to put it nicely. the younger son's father has never been around. (yeah, it's amazing who people change when they find out they're going to be a parent.) i have no problems getting a sitter. most will come to my house. moneywise, it's easy as what i make is for me and my kids. no i don't get child support. never have for either son. it makes me work even harder. my family is the biggest help you could imagine. both my kids are very well behaved..... just great smart kids. they don't miss having a father around. the older perfers not to be around his father. he's older and see the way things are; even says he likes having ';just mom and the boys time';.
Being a parent is not easy, period. If there are 2 of you then the child tries to use you against eachother or what every. If there is only one then you have the problem of is the girl getting enough time with a woman or the boy getting enough guy time. Or does the boy now how to treat a lady or does the girl grow up being anti men. Money of course is an issue and time because you cant be there as much as 2 can. How do you solve then? the same way any parent does by pulling out your hair
im a single mother of 2 and 1 on the way my worse problem is being the only one there to always discipline them then i feel like the bad person all the time i never get a break from that the other one is i never get to go anywhere alone there always with me besides work its rough

How do you find out what railroad your parent worked for?

Is there a national database that holds info for all ex railroad employees ? My mom worked as a depot agent in Jeanerette Louisiana for 20 years.There are no records there in Jeanerette of the depot nor photos.I am the only one with photos of the depot that was there.Unfortunately I don't know if she worked for one specific railroad or all that came through that station .Where would I find this info?How do you find out what railroad your parent worked for?
http://www.rrb.gov/How do you find out what railroad your parent worked for?
altho you probably have, try this G%26amp;W website. call them and ask.





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ask them
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  • Why can kids with bludging parents get free dental pain relief and not those with a working parent?

    My daughter needs dental treatment with gas. As my partner works we are not allowed this through the school dental clinic, where as anyone on a concession is eligible . Does anybody else get cranky with this injustice. Why is one child entitled to pain free treatment and not another?Why can kids with bludging parents get free dental pain relief and not those with a working parent?
    I'm not entirely sure what ';bludging'; means, but depending on your child's age, a dentist may be hesitant to use gas on a child when it isn't medically necessary, as after the initial pin-prick from the Novocaine needle, most work is relatively painless.


    If your daughter has a legitimate medical issue (or diagnosed phobia of needles), a note from her PCP could go a long way to helping out.


    As for the payment issue, I couldn't answer that without knowing what ';bludging'; means.

    What can a law enforcement do if a parent is about to drive drunk and the child calls police?

    I have a son, whose father is legallay allowed to have our son for 2 weeks visitation. I am afraid after a drunken phone call last night that his father, who has a court order against him that says he is not allowed to drink while our child is in his custody, may try to pick up our child from the airport while intoxicated (similar things happened over a decade ago). Now, I have told my son, under no circumstances is he to get into a car if his father smells like alcohol. Will the law enforcement community help my son if he calls from an airport phone? What can he do, being a minor, to keep his father from making him and his little sister get into the car? If my son has the court order in his hand, and calls the police, are they going to help him? Or does he actually have to commit the driving crime (dui/dwi) and endanger our child before they can help? I have to allow this visitation, per court order. My son says he will do this, but I shouldn't have to ask. So what do I do?What can a law enforcement do if a parent is about to drive drunk and the child calls police?
    If your son has the court order, signed by a judge in his hand, and your ex is drunk when he picks them up, the police should be able to enforce that, and your son should pick up the white courtesy phone immediately. He won't be charged with DUI if he's not driving, but he will be in violation of the court order. No cop would allow someone who's possibly drunk to drive off with 2 kids, just to get a DUI charge.What can a law enforcement do if a parent is about to drive drunk and the child calls police?
    wow, never hear of a court odrer like that, but if it clearly states he is not to drink while having the children you need to enforce this as much as possible, even if it involves the children. Depending on the age of the children it is alot of responsibilty on them, I would seek the court to have a supervised visits due to your concerns.


    You can't arrest some one for drinking if they are over 21, also most states have laws that state a what point your considered drunk or for a dui.The down side is that yes he would have to be cuaght in the act have the keys in the ignition and the vehicle would have to be running to be busted for a dui.


    If he pickes the kids up at an airport, I would instruct your children if they suspected him of drinking and the order states he is not supoose to, walk right up to airport security, or local police officer and report it.


    Having a copy of the order is a good idea!


    Hope your son is at an age where the resposibilty is not to much, but you should explain to your children your reasoning be up front and honest with them, that this alternative is better than ending up dead becuase of some jack *** who prefers to drink and endanger his kids!
    Tell him to get to a payphone and call 911.


    Even if they can't charge him with DUI, they can get him for Public Intoxication, and Child Endangerment.
    No, they should be able to snag him if he has his keys ';under his control'; and is moving toward the vehicle. Especially if he drove there, he is screwed.





    Contact a lawyer or the police in the area your son may be going.
    The police cannot do anything unless a complaint is filed or the person has broken a law. You cannot be arrested for drunk driving until you start and move the car.





    Now, you have a court order so you can call the police and ask for enforcement. I suspect that your son may have a more difficult time so I suggest he call you and you call the police. I would also tell the son that he should go to airport authorities at once then ask to make the phone call.





    You should check with a lawyer or possibly the district attorney as they would prosecute for failure to obey the court order.
    Yes, have your son contact the department and explain that his father is intoxicated. Or in the case of the airport, he should be able to find any security/TSA/local LE and report it.





    The officer can and should intervene for your son's safety as well as the safety of others.





    In Ca you do not need a Complaint filed, the officers can investigate and ';onview'; public intoxication and or DUI if he is seen driving by a witness, or in a case I've made witness him driving via security camera. Hope this helps!!
    Wrong. There was a Supreme Court case recently that found in the favor of a young woman who was charged and convicted of DUI, but was merely in her unstarted vehicle with the keys in the ignition. They can't do that any more. The police can prevent your son's father from driving your son anywhere, but they can't charge him with DUI. The driver has to be in control of a vehicle that is in motion, even an inch, for that to happen. Speaking to airport security will get the ball rolling for your kid if he needs to. Good luck to you both.
    your child, if he/she feels the person picking them up is under the influence, can ask for help from airport security. If your child is traveling alone, they will have someone escorting them. If that person suspects alcohol or drug use in the person there to recieve them, they can not permit the release of the child. Other than that, if you dont witness, I think your helpless in this situation.
    Many states have another charge, APC or ';Actual Physical Control'; of a motor vehicle while intoxicated.


    You don't have to be moving or even have the vehicle started to be charged with this, however the keys do have to be in the ignition and the person has to be in the drivers seat.

    Single-parent teachers: How do you maintain work-life balance?

    What are the advantages and disadvantages of the teaching profession for single-parents? I can think of a few myself, but I want to hear from people who have actually done this, especially with young children. Teaching seems to be a pretty demanding profession, so how did/do you make the time to be a good single-parent while pursuing a teaching career?Single-parent teachers: How do you maintain work-life balance?
    I was already established as a teacher when I had my son. I was also married... not anymore. I actually find it easier, because I know that I need to ask people for help with watching my son on nights like parent/teacher conferences. In the past I would depend on my husband to watch him and he wasn't exactly dependable. The difference I see is that I always have to have my lesson plans ready a little more in advance than I did before because if my son gets sick and I can't make it into work, my plans need to be clear in case a sub needed to be there for me for a couple of days. That is a disadvantage. This summer though ... home by myself, getting to know my son and spend time with him. Huge advantage to being a teacher! I also know that my job is stable so I will be able to support us. Good luck to you!Single-parent teachers: How do you maintain work-life balance?
    Time management, prioritizing goals and agendas, and work balancing are all interconnected. Trimming the fat off of the time you devote to certain activities can literally save up several hours in a week, or even sometimes within a day. If you want to spend more time with your kids and your partner then you don't want to spend several evening hours at home interfacing with the office, zoning out in front of an electronic device, or hanging at your favorite water hole with your friends. Priorities are necessary to help direct us toward the behaviors that will help us toward the ultimate goal of balancing work and family.
    I got a job at the school they attended and it worked out fine to be honest............

    Why can kids with bludging parents get free dental pain relief and not those with a working parent?

    My daughter needs dental treatment with gas. As my partner works we are not allowed this through the school dental clinic, where as anyone on a concession is eligible . Does anybody else get cranky with this injustice. Why is one child entitled to pain free treatment and not another?Why can kids with bludging parents get free dental pain relief and not those with a working parent?
    I'm not entirely sure what ';bludging'; means, but depending on your child's age, a dentist may be hesitant to use gas on a child when it isn't medically necessary, as after the initial pin-prick from the Novocaine needle, most work is relatively painless.


    If your daughter has a legitimate medical issue (or diagnosed phobia of needles), a note from her PCP could go a long way to helping out.


    As for the payment issue, I couldn't answer that without knowing what ';bludging'; means.

    What year did your school stop doing mandatory parent/teacher conferences?

    As far as I recall, my teachers stopped them when I was in 3rd or 4th grade as a kid, however my son's school is still doing them 1x per year.





    Just curious if anyone remembers when their school or their child's school stopped having them.





    Thanks!What year did your school stop doing mandatory parent/teacher conferences?
    My school stopped when I was out of elementary school.

    How does an insurance policy work when a parent dies and siblings are involved?

    I know there is a main beneficiary, but why do the other siblings all have to sign off on the paperwork when it comes to the funeral arrangements and such?How does an insurance policy work when a parent dies and siblings are involved?
    The funeral home is covering their own a** that SOMEone in the family will pay for the funeral....





    The more signatures they get, the more responsible parties they've found incase the life insurance does not payHow does an insurance policy work when a parent dies and siblings are involved?
    There is not necessarily a MAIN beneficiary. The proceeds of the policy may be equally divided among all the siblings. It depends on how the beneficiaries were designated to begin with.





    The signing for funeral arrangements, etc. has nothing to do with the insurance policy. The funeral parlor,etc. just wants to make sure that as many people as possible may be responsible to pay the bills. You should discuss that responsiblility with your siblings before signing off on anything.
    Funeral arrangements have nothing to do with life insurance.
    it means all the siblings agree to it.
    It protects the funeral home of later problems that may arise and it als oso that everyone involved has agreed to certain requirments.
    to make sure all parties who are involved is agreeing to such procedures.
    I think this may inadvertently be asking two questions because the funeral home agreement is different from the insurance policy. When someone dies, someone has to serve as the executor of the estate to see debts are paid, etc. Usually a family agrees on who will do this but if there is some disagreement, then someone will get a lawyer involved and the court then decides who will be the executor (if the person did not have a will or did not name an executor in their will). Covering funeral arrangements out of the policy proceeds is usually a no-brainer as that is usually the primary purpose of life insurance policies.





    As for the funeral home part of the question, I think an earlier answer hit that one: they will get as many to sign as possible in the hopes that (A) they can avoid a fight that the expenses will be paid out of the policy and (B) if there is a fight later on, at least they can show you agreed at some point.
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  • What is the best way to convice a parent to let me get my septum pierced?

    I am 14 and I want to get my septum pierced. My mother is against all thoughts of any abnormal piercings, I have 4 piercing but they are all on my ears. When ever I bring it up she flips, what can I do to change her thoughts on it?What is the best way to convice a parent to let me get my septum pierced?
    theres no good way, it scars your face for life. wait 4 more years and do it on your ownWhat is the best way to convice a parent to let me get my septum pierced?
    I doubt you're going to change her mind, but you could tell her that any scarring will be invisible, since it's inside of your nose, and with a retainer, you can make the piercing completely disappear. I've had mine pierced since I was 20, and while my parents had no say in it, I know they don't like stuff like that so much, so I always wore my retainer flipped up when I went home. They didn't find out about it for ages, until I came back from Europe and didn't have a way to put in my retainer.





    If you want a facial piercing that won't leave any kind of scar and is easy to hide, a septum is the best one to get. If she won't change her mind, though, there's nothing you can do until you're 18, sorry.
    your only 14 i can see why your mother would be against it. I got my first body piercing when i was 14 and i wish i had waited, your still growing and your still at school. i can see how much you would want it, they are cool, but i think it would be best if you waited till you where at least 16, then at least you can show your mother your serious about wanting it doing.
    You can't change her thoughts.


    Becoming 18 won't even magically still change her thoughts, she'll still hate them only there is nothing she can do about it. If she's a good mom, she'll understand though.





    I got my septum pierced today and have many other piercings. This one was the most shocking to my parents..it's a piece of jewelry right in the middle of your face. It's not something discrete like a nose piercing. Luckily, my parents understand that I like piercings and they are cool with it...but they still hate how it looks. They rather me get a piercing that can close up than a tattoo that is there forever.





    Respect your mom and just wait it out. Don't keep nagging her about it.
    there is NO WAY to change her mind, sorry kid its true. wait until you're legally allowed to. you're 14, chances are, you're going to change your mind by then anyway. and dont ever try and attempt to do it yourself, you'll **** up. trust me
    Tell her you think you're mature enough and that you're ready. If she's really that against it just keep bringing it up and talk to her about it.





    That's what I did every time my parents were against something. XD If you're 18 then just go get it done anyway. :D
    Why are you tryign to be so different.


    How about instead of trying to make your outer appearence so shocking. Try studying and become talented and outstanding at something that is useful. Wow, get a life.
    wait till your 18 and get it done then i guess. or tell her its your body and you really want it done, maybe as a b-day present or something.. make some sort of deal e.g youl pay for it and i dunoo.. do tons of chores or something.
    show her that you are mature enough to make your own decisions and that you really want to do this.
    Move to Africa and look for a small bone.
    She is right, it looks trashy.

    What advice would u give to a frustrated parent that has a 1st grader that constantly talks in class?

    The teacher %26amp; parent has to tell the child twice because he/she is not listening.What advice would u give to a frustrated parent that has a 1st grader that constantly talks in class?
    She is bored. It turns out there is a smart child in the bunch! Yeah! The challenge is how to channel all that verbal energy. Different people have different learning styles. An orator is simply a style your child has a dabble of (so to speak).





    It's difficult for these learners because they simply are not passive learners but active ones. Even talking seems disruptive but she is not so interested in hearing what is said but participating - even if she is not talking on subject matter. She likely is bored because it's too easy and her brain does not want to deal with it.





    Grrrrr... for parent and teacher - and the system that allows it. Ask her why she needs to talk during inappropriate times and find out how she can best learn. Tell her to save talking for recess and if she has a comment to wait and do tell someone later - not during class time.





    Good luck!What advice would u give to a frustrated parent that has a 1st grader that constantly talks in class?
    My advice would be: Relax. Breathe. Consider the situation. It is more important to know why your child acts out than to ';nip it in the bud';. The more you know about your childs behavior the easier it will be to convince them that it is their own idea to behave properly.





    Just my two cents.
    It is a normal problem.


    parents should be patient.





    talk to the child and try to explain him that its wrong.


    trying constantly helps

    What are some strategies for dealing with a parent who doesn't want to admit to serious memory loss?

    My Mom won't go to get tested by a professional for her clear memory loss. And, every time I try to raise the issue with her, she gets angry and lashes out at me. (I find this very easy to understand as I would likely have the same reaction). Having a calm, loving conversation on the subject yields the same results. Do I really have to wait until she's lost her mental capacity before getting her to a doctors office?





    Please, if you have made a ';breakthrough'; with an older relative, I'd love to learn from your experience.What are some strategies for dealing with a parent who doesn't want to admit to serious memory loss?
    Do not have this conversation with her. Clearly it's not working and insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.





    However, if you don't need to get the credit for getting her help, you can have an impact. Identify whom she respects--minister, one of her siblings, one of your siblings, famous person. With the last one, you'll just have to search out quotes on memory loss or going to the doctor and having amazingly good results. With the others, go to them, explain what you're experiencing and ask for their help in getting her to the doctor. The reason for her visit doesn't have to be spelled out in detail. Maybe she's having trouble with her eyes or feet.





    Then, you call the doctor in advance and explain the problems Mom is having--particularly mention time of day as Alzheimers' symptoms worsen as the day goes on. Once she's at the doctor's office with a trusted friend/relative (No, not you.) to tape or take notes, the doctor can check out all kinds of things. Given the larger percentage of elderly patients, doctors are getting pretty slick about this.





    If you want to help your mother, make sure her home has a large calendar --no, a computer one won't do, several clocks, and labeled pictures of her family. It doesn't have to be too awkward; ';Josh and Molly, at their wedding, 6/16/2005'; is informative and not obviously a memory aid. Also, don't ask her questions you think she doesn't remember. Just refer (Don't remind) to the events or decisions yourself and move on. ';I'll get a stamp for the electric bill envelope'; is lots better than ';Did you remember to write the check for the electric bill?';What are some strategies for dealing with a parent who doesn't want to admit to serious memory loss?
    I know exactly how you feel. My older sister is going down the same route and she gets very angry with me and her two daughters if/when we bring the subject up. What we have started doing is making a log of everything when it happens. Quotes, dates, times. It's really the only thing we can do. She is still functional (she's almost 64) and you can't force an adult to do something they don't want to do. Until they are a danger to themselves or others. It's our rights.


    I would suggest the log. When you get a lot of ';evidence'; present it to her in a gentle way. If she still balks, just keep at it.
    I'm just starting a program based on the book, ';The Edge Effect'; by Eric C Braverman, which I purchased from amazon.com. It has a test which will reveal mental deficiencies in several areas and a very precise supplement regime to counter-act the deficiencies. Since the test allows one to individualize a nutrition program based on needs, I recommend it for all sorts of issues, including memory loss. The great thing about this is that you wouldn't need to directly talk about the memory loss with your mom, but you could go over the questions, and help her realize her own issues, and then supplement to overcome those issues. Recommended reading, recommended nutritional program!
    Maybe you could make an appointment in a hospital and go yourself alone and talk to a doctor about it and ask for his advise and help. Good luck ...
    I feel for you. As my late fater's memory loss became more pronounced we ended up having to get the family together and kind of force a conversation. He agreed to see a doctor. It turned out to be Alzheimers. This is never an easy situation fo the person with memory loss or the family. It's good that you have an understanding of what she may be going through. Have you told her you understand her anger and her fears?





    Good luck to you friend, you and your mother have my best wishes.
    Two easy ways to get her to the hospital


    1) tie her up, put her in the car and take her


    or


    2) Get her drunk, then tell her shes going to go with you to the store or something!
    My aunt had alzheimers and she was very difficult to deal with as far as getting her tested and cared for. We basically had to trick her into going to a nursing home. I think that is pretty common.She was so out of it, though, she really didnt understand. I think you will find that reasoning will not work because they are not in their right mind. It is so hard!


    Something interesting I learned about determining whether or not you are dealing with alzheimers. Generally, if someone forgets things and KNOWS that they are forgetting, that is ok. It is a normal part of aging. It is when you dont realize you are forgetting, that you might be in trouble. For example, My aunt would misplace things, and instead of realizing she didnt remember where she put things, she assumed someone was breaking in and stealing. It really sucks getting old! Good luck to you!

    What are good books for children grieving a parent's death?

    I am looking for books for two little boys whose father recently died in a car accident. The oldest is in the 3rd grade and the youngest is in kindergarten. Any suggestions would be appreciated.What are good books for children grieving a parent's death?
    check with the local funeral home when my kids father passed away suddenly from a heart attack. the funeral home director gave me a couple of pamphlets about grieving for a parent and it helped me explain to them where he was and gave them some why's and becauses for going to heaven like he did. It helped them alot and its been 8 yrs now and they still miss him but its easier for them to understand so check with the funeral home. if that doesn't work try your church if or the hospitals chaplain he/she might have a couple of books on grieving for children.What are good books for children grieving a parent's death?
    My dad died when I was in the 2nd grade.(committed sucide) anyways- my teachers gave me a book called The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. Anyways, this book is about life, and how life always changes. It was a very good book that I still read and cherish to this day!

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    i really dont think there is books. You just got to be there for them when they want to talk about it. My mom died when i was in 4th grade, and the only way people were able to help me is to give me space, and when i wanted to talk they would be there
    When my friend died I gave her a book called


    ';Balloons for Trevor: Understanding Death (Comforting Little Hearts Series)'; by Anne Good Cave


    I used to love that book even though no one in my family died.
    Maybe tell them about heaven and how daddy is happy now.That's what my mom did when people died in our family.
    im sorry





    but i dont think books are the way to go

    How do I obtain legal documentation for a parent to sign over all rights to a child?

    Is there a website where I can download a certain documentation that I can have my boyfriend sign to give up all rights to our daughter? Or is there something I can write up myself that I can have him sign? What would I need to write?How do I obtain legal documentation for a parent to sign over all rights to a child?
    You can go to a paralegal office fairly inexpensively. They will have the correct paperwork %26amp; know how to file it for you. Do not try to do this on your own: it won't be legal.How do I obtain legal documentation for a parent to sign over all rights to a child?
    I would contact your state's social service's department, or contact the judicial branch of your state if it's urgent. I don't think you can write something out and have it be still legal...
    In most states the documents can be obtained apon request at the department of social services.

    How do we claim inheritance tax if the parent is still alive?

    My father wants to leave me the value of some property he is selling ($90,000), and since it's all he owns and he was going to leave me the property in his will anyway, he says it's inheritance and we know people who have left their children inheritance while they're still alive. So my question is, how would we claim this as inheritance and not a 'gift' under the IRS? Do we need to fill out a form? Does he have to be dead for this to take affect? Is there a limit on how much you can claim as inheritance?!How do we claim inheritance tax if the parent is still alive?
    You can't inherit from someone who is still alive. If he gives it to you now, it's a gift - he'd have to fill out a gift tax return, although he wouldn't owe any money as a gift tax, and your basis will be what his is if and when you sell it. If he leaves it to you in his will, then it doesn't take effect until he dies, but your basis becomes the value at that time.





    No limit on inheritances, but there's a limit where over than you'd pay tax, but it's $2 million now so you're well below that.How do we claim inheritance tax if the parent is still alive?
    You DON'T. An inheritance IS a gift under US tax law.
    Have your father and you set up a ';Trust Fund.'; While he is


    ';still living of sound mind and body.';


    That way, when he dies, you won't have to pay ';Inheritance


    Tax'; on it because, having the Trust Fund. You already own it


    with your father.


    Talk to a legal advisor or your tax man.


    Yes, you will need to fill out a form with your lawyer, and it has


    to be witnessed by others ';not related'; to eliminate the


    ';conflict of Interest.';


    $90,000 thousand dollars sounds like a lot, but if it's not


    invested wisely. ';It will be gone.'; %26lt;}:-})
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  • Where is the best place for nontraditional/single parent/students to study at work?

    I am a single parent I have to work a second job in addidtion to a FT job and attend school FT. What is the best place to work that might allow some time for studying? I currently work in an busy ER three days a week, 12hr nights and study time is very unpredictable and scarce. While this job in an Er is FT does not occupy all my time I would like to find an additional job where I might be allowed to study. I do not care how much it pays. I am not eligible for financial aid work study at the community college b/c of credit hrs earned and I am enrolled at two schools (EIU). What are some good companies, occupations, suggestions please?Where is the best place for nontraditional/single parent/students to study at work?
    i work overnight at a college library. i'm pretty sure that if the library was not busy i would be able to squeeze in some personal time (study or otherwise). i'm going to use that to my advantage next year when i go back for my masters.

    How taxes will be determined for subsidiary and parent company?

    Hi, Suppose a company has head office in India and a subsidiary company in USA.


    How will tax be calculated for subsidiary company and parent company? Will subsidiary company have to pay taxes in USA and again in India? Will not it be double taxation? What does things work for multinational companies which have offices in so many countries?How taxes will be determined for subsidiary and parent company?
    International companies use many strategies to move the realization of profits to the country that will charge the least taxes. Most countries evaluate the books of international countries to be sure that these strategies are not being used to their own detriment.





    For example. a subsidiary may pay all of its income to the parent as payment of royalties on intellectual properties. And prices of goods sold to the parent may be understated based on the prices they charge to other companies. These are obvious ruses, and they do attract double taxation, or put different way, the parent company is not allowed to cook the books this way. Parent companies in general must demonstrate that they are dealing with a subsidiary much as they would another arms length company.





    This can mean that the parent sells to competitors or companies that would ordinarily buy from the subsidiary. They document the leasing of property rights to other companies at competitive prices.





    When a parent and subsidiary deal with each other as though they were not related, we expect them to be taxed fairly in both countries.





    If there are significant opportunities to save on taxes, because one country has much lower tax rates, we expect ever so vigilant treatment from both governments.

    Where is the best place for nontraditional/single parent/students to study at work?

    I am a single parent I have to work a second job in addidtion to a FT job and attend school FT. What is the best place to work that might allow some time for studying? I currently work in an busy ER three days a week, 12hr nights and study time is very unpredictable and scarce. While this job in an Er is FT does not occupy all my time I would like to find an additional job where I might be allowed to study. I do not care how much it pays. I am not eligible for financial aid work study at the community college b/c of credit hrs earned and I am enrolled at two schools (EIU). What are some good companies, occupations, suggestions please?Where is the best place for nontraditional/single parent/students to study at work?
    i work overnight at a college library. i'm pretty sure that if the library was not busy i would be able to squeeze in some personal time (study or otherwise). i'm going to use that to my advantage next year when i go back for my masters.

    What surprised you the most after becoming a parent?

    I, like many people, have wondered and wondered what it will be like to become a parent. For you parents, what was the biggest surprise parenting threw at you? Was parenting what you expected it to be?What surprised you the most after becoming a parent?
    They consume every ounce of energy in you. Even if you are away from the baby, you constantly worry about them! Simple pleasures like an uninteerrupted shower or more than 7 hours of sleep become a distant memory....yet everyday is like living the best day of your life again.What surprised you the most after becoming a parent?
    Parenting was everything I thought it would be, because I thought long and hard about it before becoming a parent. I babysat a lot and talked to a lot of friends who were parents, so there really were no surprises for me. I guess the thing I was most unprepared for is how my whole view of the world changed. I see all the dangers now and I actually worry about things I never gave a thought to before. All world events are filtered through my parent glasses. That part of parenting I really don't like. Life was much easier when all I had to worry about was myself. OTOH, it wasn't as much fun either!
    Gagging on poopy diapers.
    What suprised me was how much I love my children. I knew that I would love them..but love took on a whole other definition when they were born. The first time you hold them is something that any words no matter how poetic just don't cut it. There are no words to describe how I feel about them.





    I also never realized how much my priorities and my life choices/wants/needs would change. Becoming a parent is so much more then doing dishes, diapers and night time feedings it's about be responsible for their future, the earth, their environment, etc.





    There is nothing that I wouldn't do for them..how does that song go..';Ain't no mountain high enough';
    What suprised me the most was how much love I have for my son. And how much his love has changed me.
    parenting is like a really hard job that has no pay other than the child love and respect,,


    with my daughter the biggest surprised came when she stuck a vitamin up her nose and mom was crying more than anything,,,


    once u see that little face from the minute it is born ,, there is nothing like the love you fee,





    i thought it would be like the tv families,, far from it,,


    but i would never give it up,,


    its a nice job with great rewards,,


    but u have to have the skills,,


    most woman can give birth but few are parents,
    My daughter is now three and a half, and I am expecting October 29th. I think the biggest shock I felt was when I realized how smart she was, as she started to talk, and how in tune she was to my emotions, from such a young age. They definately have a 6th sense about people, even when they are babies
    In some instances it was easier than I thought...I found myself wondering how to take care of a baby, and by the time my son was a week old I felt really confident.





    In some cases it's harder...like deciding what to do if this happens or that happens...like what do you do for a meltdown.
    What surprised me the most after becoming a parent was the realization of the awsome amount of responsibility it really is. Before having children, I think most people see having children as being a cute, cudly, all round wholesome experience - you bring this cute cudly newborn home from the hospital, you feed it a bltle every now and then, change a few diapers, show it off, watch it grow, play with it, take it to school, watch plays they are in volunteer for class parties and then send them off to college after graduation day. Nope. Wrong. Reallity struck me like a brick wall the day my daughter was born. The reality is is that you are responsible for raising and teaching and nurturing a person. Within the first week I was thinking ';What was I thinking'; Up all hours of the night with a screaming fussy baby and all hours of the day too, the expense and cost, the loss of sleep, and then when they get older, it's constantly trying to teach them right from wrong, teaching them how to talk, read, colors silly songs, having to discipline them when they need to be disciplined (that's the hardest part for me), helping and teaching them every step of the way... You no longer have any ';you'; time. No more goign out with friends and sadly, most of your friends that don't have kids don't want to hang out with you anymore because they don't understand the concept of having to find a babysitter and being home at a reasonable hour, nor do they like coming over for the evening because they can't seem to comprehend the behavior patterns of a two year old... lol. But, it is the most wonderful most dear experience in the whole world and I love it, responsiblility or no... I wouldn't give it up or trade it for anything... good question and good luck... you'll love being a mommy... guaranteed!
    I would say parenting was everything I expected it to be.


    I have 4 wonderful kids by choice and could not imagine life without them. sure it has its ups and downs but if you train them right they learn right from wrong. sure they go through lots of diapers but my kids have not cost me a fortune not with the big tax break.


    I knew I wanted to be a wife and mom at a very young age.


    and at 25 i met and married my hubby and 7 years later have 4 kids 2 boys and 2 girls . a perfect family and meybe someday when my youngest girl 8 months old is older we will add another.. meybe.. my husband wants another baby boy (-:
    Simply...I think being a parent of a baby is a piece of cake in comaprison to caring for an older child. Sure they get up ten times a night, are totally reliant upon you everything.. but they are also not mobile, can't talk back, and don't have their own calendar of places to be, homework to get done, etc.





    Overall, parenting is much tougher than I thought. It's not just being a care-giver (and that's a pretty huge job all by itself!). You're also responsible for the way someone grows, what they think, the childhood memories they have.





    I am also much more understanding of my parents' weaknesses now. I realize that you don't become an all-knowing super-human as soon as you give birth. You're still the same imperfect person you always were.
    I don't think it's anything like I expected. My biggest shock is to watch them talk/act and speak just l to like me. It is very funny to see mini versions of myself walking around.
    Buy a billion diapers, gone in 2 weeks. Buy another billion, gone in 2 weeks.





    We're up to 39 billion now. Ohh, make that 40.
    When I first became a Mom it was actually much easier than I expected. It really came natural to me.





    I have been surprised by how funny my kids are, they really keep me laughing all the time.





    For me being a parent of a school aged child is much more difficult than a baby. When the time comes it is best to just enjoy every moment as it happens. Alot of first time parents including myself just can't wait for them to walk, talk, crawl etc.. it is hard to really just focus on the moment when you are so excited.
    The biggest surprise was realizing that I never knew what love, fear, worry, infatuation, etc. really meant until he came along. I had never wanted kids because I knew I was a selfish person and I was sure that I would not change for a child. Boy, was I wrong. I sacrifice everything I can to provide more for my baby boy.





    One of the hardest things that I never thought about before he was born is writing my will. We have to name someone as a guardian for him if anything were to happen to us. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
    Wow, a great question. Over the past 8 months since becoming a parent, there have been a few moments of clarity where I was struck with this idea just out of the blue about having a child and being a mom.





    As soon as the Dr. handed my baby to me I was instantly in love. and I thought to myself ';I just can't go back to work after this'; I wanted to be with my baby every second and I still do.





    And the other thing was also pretty early on... I realized that for the next 18 years I am responsible for feeding, clothing and taking care of this person! WOW!! This baby relies on me for everything!! It's a monumental task but one that every parent has to do.





    Every day I find something new to be thankful for and my baby is always changing. Every teeny tiny thing that happens is WONDERFUL and AMAZING and I want to tell everyone. Everything you do is magnified. And it all matters. I know I was ready to have a baby and I definitely wasn't ready before now... but I can't imagine what my life would be like if I didn't have my baby. Parenthood is awesome.
    What suprised me was how instantaneous my love for my child was. It is overwhelming and uncontrollable. Its truly a blessing.
    the biggest surprise..i was adopted so i had these issues on love when my son was born..but he was and has always been my baby boy..he will soon be 17..when i got pregnant with my daughter i really had serious issues with whether i would be able to love her..she will soon be 12..i thought i didnt have room in my heart for another child..again it was the adoption thing..i took care of myself and prayed while pregnant that it would be ok..she was born and that child may not look like me at all..but she is mine... within five minutes of meeting her you know she came from me..it was all worry for nothing..i love them equally..and i tease them each and tell them i love so and so better..and then ask them together who i love more..they know they are the same..they finally figured out i tell them both the same thing..i always tell them i love you and hug them..and it doesnt get old..the mouths do at times..but its funny to watch them turn into people that have their own ideas and thoughts..the day he argued religion with me was the best..he had thoughts i didnt give him..but wouldnt back down from my arguements either..

    What complications have you had dating a single parent?

    Im a single dad and the dating game is a bit difficult being a parent,so what problems have you encountered while dating a single parent,this can go for single mom or dad.But i would mostly like to know on dating a single mom.What complications have you had dating a single parent?
    I've never had problems dealing with men with children. It's usually the crazy ex-wives that seem to want to cause trouble! If they have a lot of ex-wife drama, I usually don't want to get involved with them.What complications have you had dating a single parent?
    issues with the ex and custody, this goes for either parties. Your best bet is to keep that aside from your own love life and to never let it interfere with the relationship of child
    The kids eventually ruined it.......
    I would imagine them bad @ss kids ! and the daddy !
    I've met the child from h*ll. Lord knows where they are now but they aren't in my life. I do know that. Dad was great. The child was a terror.
    My husband immediately dumped the kids on me while he worked every day until past their bed time. I don't know why he sought custody when he had no intention (or no time) to care for his children. They went back to their mom, and now if he has visitation, he has to be here. I'm not a babysitter, and they don't come to visit me.
    There's never been any problems with the child involved, or the parent that is being seen.





    It's always ex-spouse trouble. Drama that any normal, unhateful person would avoid starting- but due to bitterness, they feel the need to make everyone's life hell.
    Merlin...that's funny.





    I dated a single mom once with a 12 yr old boy.....yikes. The kid was crazy jealous to the point of emotional outbursts...not a good time.
    Im a single dad dated a few woman with kids . The biggest problem i had was the woman wanted me to treat there kids better then my own . I am at the point i stopped dating altogether . My kids mean more to me then some whining cranky woman .
    I am in a LTR but dating was a struggle... so I gave up on men without kids.. you do not have as much spur of the moment times and single without kids guys cannot handle that... you have more responsibility (sports, scouts, school, homework, etc) that most single guys have no clue in relation too -- or single women as well. Its also hard for a single no kids person to relate to the idea that yes I want your support and backup but discipline is my responsibility and yes your suggestions I will listen to with an open mind - but do not fight with me or tell me what I am doing wrong - you do not even have kids! As for the ex factor - some venting comes along about the ex but in our case very little drama - I can see in some cases where drama is a factor.. also dating a single parent keep in mind single parents do not have time or desire to deal with games... they want someone family oriented and real/ serious who are not just playing games... they not only deserve good for themselves but for their kids as well.. so its a whole new game when it comes to dating single parents.
    I am a single mom and found it easier to date a man without kids. Although they do not have the parenting skills, they can learn.





    Being a single parent and dating a single parent is hard! It's like double the stress!!! Although they may be understanding regarding the whole situation with, ex's, court, parenting plans... they are better off as friends.
    ok i am a single mom of 4 and I am dating a single dad of 3 and it is tough but the main thing you have to do if it get serious is blend all of them as one family and treat them all equal. if not serious relation make sure its someone u can trust with your kids and make sure that you do not introduce them until you know they will stick around cause kids don't understand any of it and want stability.
    I would never introduce my child to someone I wasn't serious about myself. So, keep the introduction at bay until you feel that the person is special to you. You don't want people running in and out of your child's life. Also, it helps if you date someone who is in the same boat, someone who also is a single parent. When you feel the time is right to introduce your child to the person you are dating, don't bring them to your home. Make it a casual, short meeting, maybe over pizza. Then gradually bring them around more. Personally, I would never have the person spend the night when the child is there either. Other than that, it's not too much different.
    well i dated and married a single mom. It is really hard because not only do you have to earn the respect of the mom you have to earn the respect of the kid(s). You also have to take into consideration the in-laws do they like you or not. if they don't they WILL get those kids to despise you and there is no way to fix that. my ex-father-in-law did with my exs daughter and now a main part we divorced is because of that.

    What would be the necessary condition of a parent nucleus to decay into a daughter nucleus and alpha particle?

    What would be the necessary and sufficient condition of a parent nucleus to decay into a daughter nucleus and alpha particle?





    The mass are represented as the following:


    Put in terms of parent nucleus: Mp


    Daughter nucleus: Md


    Alpha particle: Ma


    Speed of light: c





    Need to think about energy conservation?





    How much kinetic energy is released too?What would be the necessary condition of a parent nucleus to decay into a daughter nucleus and alpha particle?
    no, i am not agree
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  • How difficult is it to become a foster parent?

    I am thinking about becoming a foster parent in about 5 or 10 years when I'm comfortable in my life and career. What are some requirements? Does the state provide foster parents with a certain amount of money for each child's needs? Can you request a particular age group? Will they give you children that have special needs, if you don't have any training or experience in that area?How difficult is it to become a foster parent?
    It normally isn't very dificult. All you need to do is get fingerprinted to make sure the children aren't living with someone who has had convictions. Whomever is in your household would also need to be finger printed. A social worker needs to visit your home to ensure that the child would be in a safe enviornment and that you can provide a good clean place for them to live in. Some people are under the impression that you need to be well off to be a foster parent, but that's not the case. They usually look for people who will be able to give the child care and be attentive to their needs. You can request a certain age group, and I believe also nationalities as well. I'm not sure that they would allow a child with special needs to live with someone if that person did not have a little bit of training. By that I mean taking a few classes, which that government might be able to provide free of charge or at a low cost to you. And yes, there is an allowance that they give you every month for their living expenses. Every few months or so you also get a clothing allowance for the child. The allowance varies dependign on their age.





    Kudos to you for thinking about opening your home to foster children. Not many people are as givign and caring as needed to take care of someone besides themselves.How difficult is it to become a foster parent?
    www.fosterkids.com
    your local social services has foster care courses. and you can pick and choose what you can handle. you can select what ages you want, what sex you want, special needs or not. you have to have a clean record, no criminal past. and also adequate space in your home. they pay per kid, and also they give each kid a clothing allowance every 3 months. Its only enough to live on if you take in 4 at a time. less then that and you are going to need to work full time elsewhere to support yourself.
    I have a friend which her father is a foster parent. He has 7 foster kids, which is a lot. And each child he get's paid $400 a month, at least here in California I suppose. That's $2800 a month for all of them. And that's just part of it. You have to give each of them an allowance about $50 a month so they can buy clothes or whatever. You need tons of food if you want to take care of that many kids. And the rules are, if the kid does something wrong for I beleive 6 times, which is 6 strikes, they move on to another foster care. And you don't necessarily need training or experience, as long as you have a decent job, a decent home, a bed for each individual child, then your good.





    And that's all I know so far from my friend. She also told me some of her recent foster siblings get pregnant or impregnate others, some come home at a very late time and some even use drugs. And the house is always busy, but she still thinks it's fun.
    Every county is different!But all counties do a criminal back ground check,you have to be certified ind first aid and CPR,have a home check,of course have rooms for the children,smoke alarms,some make you see a shrink to make sure you're not crazy!Oh and yes you can tell them what kind of children you can or will take in!Yes that means age too!
    it is not diffucult at all. Just treat your foster child just like your own. They will feel good and love you.

    What is the penalty if the non-custodial parent and the custodial claims a child on their taxes?

    The mother (custodial parent) has all of the necessary documentation to show that she was the primary supporter. Will the father be penalized?What is the penalty if the non-custodial parent and the custodial claims a child on their taxes?
    When a second return is submitted with the same dependent, both returns are flagged for review. The taxpayer who was not entitled to claim the child will have to redo his/her tax return. If the taxpayer was due a refund (after the recalculation), there will not be a penalty. However, if the taxpayer will owe money, there will be a penalty for not paying the full amount of taxes due by April 15.

    How to address a biological parent around an adoptive parent?

    A friend of mine was adopted by a woman who was married to her father and now at 36 she is faced with Her biological mother will be visiting her and her parents. They aren't on bad terms so thats not an issue, but my friend is stuck on how to address her biological mother in front of her adoptive mother, who she knows as mommy. Any suggestions?How to address a biological parent around an adoptive parent?
    DNA does not make a parent. Call her whatever is respectful since you don't know her that wellHow to address a biological parent around an adoptive parent?
    the adoptive parents ARE the parents...mommy and daddy. the biological parents should be address either by their first names or as Mr. Mrs so and so.
    In this case calling her biological mother by first name would be the best choice in my idea.

    What form do I use when the other parent is not following the court ordered visitation schedule?

    I am in Santa Clara county. I have everything documented I just need to know the form I use to file. Thanks in advance.What form do I use when the other parent is not following the court ordered visitation schedule?
    you can find out about the process here:


    http://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/portal/page?_p鈥?/a>








    an example can be found here:


    http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/forms/fillab鈥?/a>





    Most courts have a blank ';Motion to show cause for contempt'; that you can fill out for just about anything. If your local courthouse does not, then you need to file your own Motion to Show Cause for Contempt visitation.





    The party subject to a valid court order who, with knowledge of the order and the ability to comply, fails to comply with the terms of the order is subject to a contempt adjudication and statutory contempt penalties (Ca Civ Pro 搂搂 1218 %26amp; 1219). As an enforcement remedy, exercise of the contempt power enables the court to compel compliance with its valid orders.





    In a ';civil contempt,'; the punishment is ';remedial, and for the benefit of the complainant.'; In a ';criminal contempt,'; the sentence is ';punitive, to vindicate the authority of the court.';





    The face of the Judicial Council Affidavit for Contempt form expressly states ';A contempt proceeding is criminal in nature'; and advises the citee that ';the possible penalties include jail sentence . . .'; Consequently, at least one court concludes any contempt proceeding brought on the standard Judicial Council contempt form is per se a criminal (not a civil or ';remedial';) contempt matter.





    Family law orders and judgments are enforceable by contempt unless punishment by contempt would violate the constitutional guaranty against imprisonment for nonpayment of ';debt'; (U.S. Const., Amend. XIII; Ca Const. Art. I, 搂 10). However, an order or judgment is not a ';debt'; within the meaning of the constitutional guaranty against imprisonment for ';debt'; simply because it requires the payment of money. As developed below, most (but not all) family law orders and judgments are deemed based on a law-imposed obligation (not ';money judgments in civil actions for debts';) and thus are enforceable by the court's contempt power.

    What is the gift tax owed if a parent gives a home to a child?

    I was not sure if the parent owes the tax or the child. I know there is something about a $1,000,000.00 lifetime giving amount that comes into play also.What is the gift tax owed if a parent gives a home to a child?
    The parent is required to report, and may owe the tax.





    Any person can give any other person a specified amount, now $12,000, each year, without requiring reporting, and there's no reporting on transfers to your spouse.





    Ignoring the generation-skipping tax, which doesn't apply on parent-child transfers, amounts over that are reported by the giver on form 709. There's no tax due on that until the total gifts FROM that person reach $1,000,000. Amounts over that $1,000,000 have gift tax due on April 15 of the following year. If gift tax is paid, the recipient needs a copy of the 706, as part of the gift tax paid adds to the basis of the property transferred.





    The following is not exactly correct, but is a reasonable approximation. The untaxed reported gifts are added to the estate for the purpose of the estate tax on the giver's death. After the exemption (now $2 million) is applied, the rest of the estate is subject to estate tax on form 706. (It is important for the filed 706 forms, or at least the most recent one, to be made available to the executor of the estate so that the proper numbers can be transferred to the estate tax return.)What is the gift tax owed if a parent gives a home to a child?
    The parent fills out the form 709. The form keeps track of lifetime taxable gifts. (Even if the $1Million is not exceeded, the total counts against the estate.)





    The child needs a copy of the gift tax form since some of the calculated gift tax is added to the basis (which starts at the parents basis--the capital gains are passed along to the child).
    Maybe none.





    The giver owes the tax if any is due, not the recipient.





    If the gift is over $12,000, the giver must file a gift tax return. But they won't pay a gift tax unless they have already used up their $1 million lifetime exemption.
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  • How long does it take to get a parent taught drivers ed package in the mail?

    I sent in the registration form along with the money for the parent taught drivers ed program the first week of may. It is June 18th and still have not gotten it.How long does it take to get a parent taught drivers ed package in the mail?
    3-6 weeks

    How do you go about becoming a foster parent for dogs?

    I guess that foster parent would be the proper term. It's something that I'm interested in, and I wondered how you became qualified to that. I'm a little weary though, because I have small children, and I know that rescue dogs need a lot of love and training, and some may be trouble dogs. Anyone have any information?How do you go about becoming a foster parent for dogs?
    If there is a specific breed that you like you could find a rescue group for that breed and let them know you're interested in fostering. Most groups will have you fill out an application and do a home visit. You could also contact your local animal shelter and let them know. They'll be able to tell you what their application process is like.





    It's a wonderful experience to open your home and your heart to a foster dog. Good luckHow do you go about becoming a foster parent for dogs?
    It is nice that you want to help, and any shelter or rescue group would be glad to have you.


    However, if you are unsure about the children and all your other responsibilities, maybe fostering is not something you should just jump into. You could select a breed you love, and volunteer to do other things for them first, to ease yourself into working for rescue. While you volunteer, you will learn tons about how to care for a foster dog, and whether you will be able to make the commitment or not.


    Then you can take the plunge with confidence and know you are doing good, while caring for your family as well.





    The way to go about volunteering is pretty much the same all over. You apply to volunteer with whatever group you pick, and they will help you from there!





    Good luck!
    You should probably find a breed you're interested in and then find a rescue organization for that breed nearby. If they think you have the proper credentials, you could foster a dog until it is adopted.





    You can also go to a local animal shelter and adopt a dog to foster and rehome later. Good luck!
    You can contact any local rescue that has a foster care program (try looking on petfinder.com at the rescues listed there 鈥?most of those dogs are in foster homes)





    I foster for a great organization called Stray From the Heart here in NYC. I love doing it (it provides my adopted dog with companionship and me with the ability to help out a dog in need).





    Rescues with foster care programs won't want to place a dog that won't suit you in your home 鈥?it wouldn't be fun for either parties. Contrary to popular belief, most rescue dogs don't need intensive rehabilitation. Although I do it myself sometimes, I live alone and am experienced with tough cases.





    If your foster dog is coming straight from the shelter, it might not be house trained, but the longest it's taken me to 100% house train a dog was a week.





    If the dog doesn't work out for you, then the rescue will find an alternate housing situation for the dog (they don't want to lose foster homes because there are so few as it is).





    Express your concerns with the rescue and they'll try to work with you. There are so few homes willing to open their doors to dogs in need but so many dogs getting put down, they can pull a dog out of a shelter to specifically suit you and your situation (this has happened with me in the past).





    Insofar as qualifications, they'll want to know your experience with dogs as well as at least 2 personal references. And they'll oversee how the dog first settles into your home.





    But it is so rewarding I hope you choose to try it out. Finding a good rescue is key, so ask them as many questions as they'll want to ask you. Consult a couple of rescues to see which seems to work best for you. It's a team effort to foster and place a dog so you've got to like your teammates!





    Hope it all goes well and thank you immensely for considering helping a dog out in need!
    contact your local animal shelter, they have training courses I think and they come and inspect the home and stuff like that. You have to fill our an application form and they see if you are suitable for the job.
    call your local animal shelter...they usually foster out animals until they can be put up for adoption.





    There is an application..

    How do you prove you're a single parent when travelling internationally with a minor?

    At the international airport, a parent travelling with a minor son/daughter is required to provide proof that the absent parent approves of the international travel in the form of a notarized authorization. If you're a single parent or if you're spoused is deceased, what documents do authorities look for instead?How do you prove you're a single parent when travelling internationally with a minor?
    The child will need a passport too, and that normally requires the signatures of both parents. If the other parent is deceased or if you have sole legal and physical custody of the child, you need to provide the death certificate or court order to show this. The same proof can be used to show that there is no other parent avail. to sign a permission letter..or that you legally do not need the letter. Some countries do not require a letter of permission, but many do and it is becoming more common...so it is very wise to have it...or proof that it is not needed. People at the passport office deal with this all the time and are good at it. So,when you go to submit the passport application for the child and are not sure what proof they need, ask. If the other parent has just ';disappeared'; out of the child's life, you can get a letter from your lawyer stating that person cannot be found, a letter from your clergyman, your doctor, just to show that the person cannot be located.How do you prove you're a single parent when travelling internationally with a minor?
    Different countries have different requirements. The answers given here may have been accurate for the people who wrote them, but they might not be the right answer for you if you are traveling to a different country.





    The only safe thing to do is to call the embassy or nearest consulate of the country that you are visiting. You can find the contact information by enter ';embassy of [country] in the US'; in a search engine or by checking the consular information sheet at www.travel.us.gov. They can tell you exactly what is required.





    Don't take any chances. If you arrive at the airport with inadequate documentation, the airline will refuse to board you and your trip will be over before it starts.
    Whoa interesting question when traveling u will probably require guardian ship paper or permission from parents but if the child parents are deceased u will probably need a court permission to go travel with a child.





    When i was young i lost my mother and my father and my sister took custody of me we had to go to court for guardian papers and proof that my parents where deceased.





    But mostly u will need to carry the child social security number date of birth and guardian ship papers but if that doesnt help the government can help people solve this problem.





    I am not %100 percent sure but theres also something else if the child is under your deceased spouse name and not in yours they will probably not let u fly or travel anywhere unless u have proper documents like permission from a judge or government or if u have custody of the child.
    ive never heard of this. me, my mom, and stepdad took my niece and nephew overseas and didn't have any problem (we just needed the passport) and of course we went with my sisters permission.
    take the decseased death cirtificate with you...if there is just ';no'; mother/farther (ie. you dont know who it is for watever reason) take the birth cirtifficate of the child... hope i helped :)
    will show with a birth control and deanth certificate so they can compare it i think try that or call the airport
    my daughters husband committed suicide so she had to use the death certificate in order to take her kids to Mexico...

    What are the community responsibility of the single parent?

    Please help me out with detailed answers. And helpful websites would be great too! Thank you.What are the community responsibility of the single parent?
    As far as I know the community do not have any responsibility to help single parents. The only place that might help is Welfare.What are the community responsibility of the single parent?
    ask live people at www.adultopenchat.com make a chat room of it!!





    its a good question in fact.





    my answer would be that regardless, everyone should look out for each other, starting of with your nabours and friends.

    How do you file income taxes if your parent is unemployed?

    A friend of mine's mom has been unemployed for a year now and they want their parents to file taxes so they can get grants.How do you file income taxes if your parent is unemployed?
    I work for a company the processes financial aid applications for schools, not students. The parents do not have to file taxes if they do not have income levels that require them to do so. However, you can't live on ';nothing'; so they are going to be asked how they survive, money has to come from somewhere. They have to show any income or help received on the FAFSA regardless of it's source. Welfare benefits go in a special section. If Grandma pays their rent it goes in a different section, etc.





    It's all explained at the following link.How do you file income taxes if your parent is unemployed?
    You can file a Form 1040-EZ with the income they do receive, if any, included.
    If they don't have enough income to be requried to file, there is no need for them to file.





    You don't file tax returns to get grants.
    If she's been drawing unemployment, she may need to file anyway as unemployment benefits are taxable.
    If she is living with her husband, they file jointly otherwise she would state ';not required to file'; on the grant application.
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  • How many chromosomes and chromosome pairs does the Parent cell have before undergoing mitosis?

    Also i need to know how many choromosomes and chromosome pairs the Parent cell has before undergoing meiosis.How many chromosomes and chromosome pairs does the Parent cell have before undergoing mitosis?
    If we are talking about humans, then all cells except the sex cells (and the red blood cells that lose their nuclei) have 46 chromosomes or 23 pairs. That is written as 2N=46, N=23. Mitosis is a process where you start with one cell, and end with two, and the two new cells have the same types and numbers of chromosomes than the original cell.





    Meiosis is a different process, where you start with 46 chromosomes and 23 pairs, and end up with cells (gametes) with 23 chromosomes and one chromosome from each pair.

    How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?

    I am 14 and have a very abusive mother. She sometimes also physically abuses me. She used to be an alcoholic but she is still mentally abusing me and is in total denial about it. My father has recently died and she seems to be taking that out on me. I can't get away from her because my family seems to believe her and running away is out of the question since we live in the middle of nowhere. I am too young to get hired and live on my own. Please Help!How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
    Hi Jessie,


    Sorry to hear life is so tough for you right now! Let me tell you a few things first. Your situation sounds a bit like my own situation when I was your age!





    I lived with my dad in the middle of nowhere and he was an alcoholic who took his anger at my mother out on me.





    Some things I did to get through the tough times till I could escape were:


    1) I reminded myself every single day that what he had to say about me was not true. It was just his alcoholism talking.


    2) When he hurt me I reminded myself that it was not about who I was at all. It was about who he was.


    3) I did a lot of reading and took a lot of long walks.


    4) As soon as I could escape, I did!


    5) When I escaped I sought out some help for myself because I knew that I had been through some pretty tough stuff and knew that I had missed a lot of normal teenage stuff. Counselling was very, very helpful to get me back on track.


    6) most important of all is I never gave up on me!





    Hang in there Jessie! You can get through this and when you do you need to look back at it all once and thoroughly then having seen it from a different point of view and seen that you did well to cope with it all and that you were very resourceful to manage things as well as you did you will be able to let it all go and just move on.





    Best Wishes for your future.How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
    Tell somebody! - like another adult you can trust---- ask your Mom about therapy as an option for her or the both of you- grief counseling could help
    You could call the police and get her arrested.
    Talk to a teacher at school. Try to get this book. 'How to cope with difficult parents' by Windy Dryden.

    Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?

    I'm a single mom with one child and would like to know what is the minimum amount of income I would need to make in order to qualify for earned income credit on that child?Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
    If you earned between $1 and $50, you would get $9 in Earned Income Credit (EIC). The amount of EIC increases as the amount of earned income increases - until you hit $8050 in earned income. Between $8050 and $14,850, the EIC amount is $2747. Once you earn more than $14,850, the EIC amount slowly decreases until you hit $32,000, at which point it is phased out completely.


    All of these figures are based on filing as Single or Head of Household, with one child qualifying for EIC. They are also the figures that would have been used to file a 2006 return - the 2007 EIC table is not yet published, but will be fairly similar to this.


    Hope this helps!Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
    to get the max its about $14,000 - $15,000


    i think $7,000 is when you start getting eligible for the earned income





    but it could change for the next year

    What happens in a custody case when one parent does not have money for a lawyer?

    My ex-aunt ran out of money for a lawyer, but my grandma is helping my uncle pay for one. Does she get a court appointed lawyer?What happens in a custody case when one parent does not have money for a lawyer?
    Normally, no court-appointed lawyers in a civil matter, which this is. She could try the local legal aid association. The court will be concerned with the best interests of the child or children.What happens in a custody case when one parent does not have money for a lawyer?
    I have been there myself. My first husband and I had children together. When I had left him, I had no money for a lawyer, but he did. My fear level was very high. But I found out that I could get help from the state to obtain a good lawyer for nothing. (I did end up winning custody so they were very good, and our divorce lasted a year and everything was covered).





    It would be a good idea for you to contact your local welfare office (they always have the information there) and tell them your situation. More than likely they will be able to direct you in the right direction on where to go for this sort of help.





    Good Luck
    The Government Should Give Her A Lawyer According That Its The Law!!
    the court will as long as she falls below the guidlines
    The government will help her out.
    Tell her to go to legal aid.

    Is it illeagal for a parent to lock their kid out of the house even when the parent is home.?

    my friends mom wount let her in and we dont know what doi do, can we call the police? its been like 3 hrs and we have gone to the door like 3 times and no one will unlock it.





    what to dooo?Is it illeagal for a parent to lock their kid out of the house even when the parent is home.?
    If there is no response or indication that the mother is OK, you certainly want to contact the police, as she could be ill or injured. I don't know about legality, but if the mom is just in a snit %26amp; this is typical behavior for her I'd want to notify the Dept. of Social Services. It's hard to say without knowing all the circumstances, but at the very least I'd contact other relatives to intercede.Is it illeagal for a parent to lock their kid out of the house even when the parent is home.?
    call the police. soon. unless she is over 18.


    but if she is over 18 and paying rent then it is a differnt story


    good luck





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    CALL THE POLICE FOR GOSH SAKES
    it depends on how old she is...

    How is it in a fire that a parent watched his son or a friend watched his friend pull the fire alarm?

    In a fire how is it that a father watched his son pull the fire alarm or a friend watched his friend pull the fire alarm? Can a mature son who knows there is a fire ask his dad if he could pull the alarm? Could the father go with the son in a safe location to keep his son calm and to see if it is working. Could a father say to his son how to break the glass or to pull the lever down. If the lever did not go down the first time could the father say pull it again your doing a good job. Or when the son is pulling the alarm can the father say you are doing a good job and say the handle will lock into place and to wait until the alarm sounds?How is it in a fire that a parent watched his son or a friend watched his friend pull the fire alarm?
    None of the situations that you descirbe are really of any relevance when there is a fire in any type of occupancy. If you have the ability, regardless of age, pull the fire alarm and get out of the building. If you pull an alarm and nothing happens, get out of the building and call for help from another location. If there is a fire, that is no time to teach or coach people about alarms. A fire doubles in size every minute, so seconds mean lives.How is it in a fire that a parent watched his son or a friend watched his friend pull the fire alarm?
    Good advice by Alex but you lost me when you said a fire doubles in size every minute. A number of different factors would have to determine that. It is not merely an automatic thing. There is no proof that every fire doubles in size every minute.

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    It could be possible. We need to teach our children how to protect themselves. But that is a strange question.
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  • How are you going to pay your parent sback for giving you life?

    And possibly for supporting yoou for at least 18 years?How are you going to pay your parent sback for giving you life?
    If my parents end up contributing anything to my education, I'm going to pay them back when I can afford it. They may not be doing anything but cosigning though, so we'll see. If I can afford it I want to take my mother to Hawaii someday. I think that's where we're going on our honeymoon and I feel guilty for going without her, so we'll have to make a separate trip. :)





    Otherwise, they'll have my respect for allowing me to live long enough to move out on my own.How are you going to pay your parent sback for giving you life?
    PAY???? you dont have to pay them anything.Being a parent is a big commitment and if you dint want kids you should have never had them.You dont pay your parents for giving you life and bringing you into the world.Yes being a parent is hard and doing it for 18years is hard but you dont pay them back for giving you life.They should be happy you are here in this world
    i haven't planned on it. they DIDNT have to have me, but they werent asked to have me either. but either way, i have given them grand kids, i think thats a good payback
    I'm not going to. They should be content with two smart daughters, I'm giving them the opportunity to be wished happy mother and father's day.
    My parents got everything they wanted when they had there kids... Our endless love and the pride of knowing they raised there kids to be good loving parents...
    you shouldn't have to PAY your parents back. they should be blessed to have you for 18 years !





    your parents most likely had parents for 18 years as well... this isn't a ';trading'; thing
    thats their responsibilty as parents when they have children they shouldnt expect anything back. and if thats how you feel, then you suck
    By being happy because, in the end, that is what they truly want for you.
    eventually support her with my art career.
    you pay it back by creating life yourself!
    Yes, and I consider them paid in full. I gave them GRANDKIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    What happens if your under 18 and Parent cannot show up for minors subpoena?

    If i am not able to make it to a different county for a court subpoena what happens to my parent? If my parent needs to be at work? What are the consequences. I dont think being arrested pertains to me though or my mom and we only got a phone call and no subpoena delivered. I am not in trouble but need to show up against someone. So no case is against me.What happens if your under 18 and Parent cannot show up for minors subpoena?
    I take this to mean you are a witness in a case against someone else, if so %26amp; you have not been served a subpeona to appear you do not have to attend. A request by phone is just that - a Request. So there should not be any consequences. You need to take into account though whether - a) this was a serious crime b) how important is your testimony to the case c) how not testifying would effect the outcome of the case (such as an innocent person be convicted, or a criminal not be convicted)


    Mainly, how relevant is your info. in the case, are there other witnesses who will disclose the same facts you are attesting too. If it were a major case %26amp; your statements were detremental to the case I would think a subpeona would be involved. Either way- good luck %26amp; I am glad the case is not against you, keep it that way - keep setting a good example for the other youth in our society.

    What are some characteristics of a good parent?

    I am taking a research course and we need to do some qualitative research. If you could come up with as many characteristics as possible I would appreciate it!





    Thanks for helping!What are some characteristics of a good parent?
    Good luck! I loved my research course.





    A good parent is authoritative (as opposed to authoritarian) - they set guidelines for their children, yet allow enough latitude for the children to discover things on their own.





    Consistency - the child absolutely knows what his/her boundaries are.





    Communication - a good parent explains things to his children instead of simply saying ';because I said so.';





    Openness - a good parent is open to allowing his children to have new experiences to expand their worlds





    Unconditional love - a good parent can communicate to his children that he loves them no matter what. When the child disobeys or fails, the child needs to know that it is the action that the parent is displeased with, and not the child himself.





    I hope this isn't too esoteric.What are some characteristics of a good parent?
    Patience, reasonability, sense of humour, sense of fun, enough time for child...
    loving, caring, affectionate, understanding, dependable
    understanding, supportive, willing to spend time everyday with the child,
    A good listener


    Open %26amp; honest


    Fair


    Nuturing


    Loving


    Sets reasonable boundries / rules


    Able to talk to your child without alot of anger


    Sets a reasonable path for your child to follow


    Supporting the child's views of his/her own path.


    Teaching good values %26amp; respect
    responsible


    honest


    flexible


    accepting


    non-judgmental


    supportive


    ethical


    patient


    hard-working


    practical


    intelligent


    active


    thoughtful
    spending time w/ your child. Letting them know you love and care for them. Praising. Talking w/ them. Not spanking. Hugging them also. Actually do stuff that they like too not just you
    the ability to dispense unconditional and constant hugs, kisses and ';i love yous !!!';

    Thursday, January 21, 2010

    What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?

    The father is responsible for transportation for his visitation weekends. He now has decided he didn't want to do the driving since he moved an hour away. What are my options if he decides not to return my son because he doesn't want to drive?





    What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
    Remind him of the court order, that if he takes the kids he has to bring them back. If he doesn't then call the Police.What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
    If he does not have custody of the child, and refuses to return him, you can honestly involve the police. And it is almost guarenteed that he wont be alowd around the child for probable ';kidnapping'; charges, that could be activated in the future.





    All in all, you can really bust his *** for refusing.
    You may be able to raise serious charges against him. You may want to seek some form of legal advice to be sure of your rights. http://www.localtexasattorneys.com/Categ鈥?/a>





    Good Luck!
    He can be arrested and convicted for kidnaping. Non-custodial is the important term here. He does not have legal custody of the child, and his visitation is ONLY visitation.
    It sounds to me like a violation of a court order and you should be able to get him on contempt.


    I would speak to my lawyer.
    call the police and he'll get in trouble.if he is breaking the court order he'll get in trouble.