tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17970621838300797852024-03-12T15:56:51.585-07:00parentScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.comBlogger360125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-207665152636435912010-05-13T22:32:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:32:27.731-07:00How would you handle the financial responsibilities that come with being a parent?This is for teen parents. Its for a project.How would you handle the financial responsibilities that come with being a parent?<br >My daughter is a teen parent, and she is handling the financial responsibilities very well. As soon as she found out she was pregnant, she took two summer jobs and started saving money. She continues to work at one of those jobs part time, even though she is going to school and caring for her child. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />She wanted to move out of our house, but stayed here to save money on rent and food. She shops at rummage sales and secondhand stores. She filed for child support and insurance coverage from her baby's father. She gratefully accepted gifts and help from family and friends. And she used every available service, such as WIC, child care assistance, visiting nurse, and a teen parent program at school, to help offset the baby's expenses. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />She is taking free college courses through her high school this year, will graduate with over 40 college credits in the spring, and will apply for as much financial aid as possible so she can finish college and position herself to get a good job in a few years.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-74696771611496892352010-05-13T22:32:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:32:11.867-07:00What are the laws of moving out of state with a divorced parent?My father lives in Illinois and my Mother lives in Conneticut. I currently live with my father and he has main custody of me. My mom has visitation (every-other weekend). I would really like to move in with her, but my father wont let me visit her, let alone move in with her. What should I do? Im 16 and wanted to know if I can just up and move out with her, or have to legally do something?What are the laws of moving out of state with a divorced parent?<br >If she has court ordered visitation he HAS to let you go visit. If he does not, he is in contempt and your mother can petition the court for a change in custody arrangement. Your mother needs to make arrangements for you to visit and document by witnesses or by police that he refuses to let you go.What are the laws of moving out of state with a divorced parent?<br >Custody laws in this country are ridiculous...how come you, the innocent child has to suffer and move back and forth. Whose God-awful idea was that? At age 14 judges can listen to the childrens request about where they want to live.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />When I'm president...the kids won't move, the parents will. Children need consistency above all else....they would remain in their home and the parents would rotate. You have my sympathy.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-38061292804638123442010-05-13T22:31:00.003-07:002010-05-13T22:31:54.806-07:00What is the minimum age requirement to still be on parent's medical insurance?I am turning 18 next year and was wondering what age I go off my parent's medical insurance. <br><br /><br />Also, if I am a full time college student, am I still on their medical insurance?What is the minimum age requirement to still be on parent's medical insurance?<br >The MINIMUM age is 0 - birth. The maximum varies, it's usually the later of when you turn 18, or stop being a full time student. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />So yes, if you go to college full time, you'll still be on their policy.What is the minimum age requirement to still be on parent's medical insurance?<br >Those requirements do not fit the question asked. You asked the minimum age. I believe you are looking for the requirement to remain on their Insurance. You would need to have either your parents check the policy or call the Insurance Company.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />All States have different laws and all policies carry different requirements. It would be best to check the policy and make sure to check ';exclusions'; to the policy.<br >25 years old on most insurances, and past that if you are a child disabled.<br >Most insurance companies have provisions that as long as you are a full-time student, that you can be covered for an additional 4-5 years.<br >I am 20 years old and still under my parent's insurance. My mom's insurance said I'm covered as long as I'm a full time student. My dad's insurance said as long as he claims me on his taxes than I'm covered. Either way, if you live with your parent you shouldn't have to pay!<br >All policies are different. Some, age 18. Some , as long as you are a full time student, to age 25.Some go less. <br><br /><br />You have to examine the benefits book. If alowed to stay on because you area student, you will have to provide verification periodically. which the school will provide directly to the ins co..<br >You will probably have to check with your insurance company. But with my parents insurance I could stay on it until I turned 19 as long as I was still living with them.<br >If you are a full time student your parents can choose to keep you on their medical up to the age of 25. It is their choice to put and keep you on their insuranceScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-66714687482149827332010-05-13T22:31:00.002-07:002010-05-13T22:31:38.425-07:00What if the child refuses to visit the non custodial parent?A 15 year old has been alienated from the non custodial parent by the custodial parent nd manipulated that the non custodial parent is ';bad'; or not ';good enough'; and what not (false).<br><br /><br />Either way. There is joint legal custody. Now the child refuses to visit the other parent. The legal papers set a visitation schedule. What what are the legal consequences for the non custodial parent if the child refuses suddenly to visit the non custodial parent<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />My feeling it's a setup.What if the child refuses to visit the non custodial parent?<br >Take it back to the judge and bring the 15 year old for their opinionWhat if the child refuses to visit the non custodial parent?<br >If there is true parental alienation involved, yes, I would be suspicious %26amp; contact my attorney. In my experience with this situation, the child (a teenager) refuses to see their non-custodial parent due to 1) that parent refusing to respect the child's decision to live with the custodial parent, 2) the non-custodial parent's insistance on continuing to try to manipulate %26amp; bribe the child into moving back in with them %26amp; 3) attempting to use the child in games with the custodial parent, even though the child sees right through these actions. Not to mention 4) the fact that out of a 30-day visitation with the non-custodial parent, the child got about 6 hours of one-on-one visitation. The rest was spent accompanying the parent on dates with their significant other (not a spouse, just a live-in) or at a friend's house when three was considered a crowd. The child in question has confronted the non-custodial parent 3 times about the distrust caused by these actions, but has been literally blown off. The non-custodial parent refuses to even acknowledge the child's concerns. I can't blame the child for not wanting to visit %26amp; put up with these circumstances. <br><br /><br />In my humble opinion, both of these parents need to sit down with the child %26amp; discuss the child's feelings, the source of those feelings %26amp; face the reality that their divorce put this child in a position to choose between the two households. They each had a 50/50 shot at the child choosing their household. Since they put the child in that position, they should have been prepared to face the fact that they might draw the long straw. The ';losing'; parent needs to accept the child's decision %26amp; deal with it (unless the other parent's home is detrimental to the CHILD, not the non-custodial parent's ego). One PARENT divorced the other PARENT. It's unfair to expect the children to divorce them, too. The parents both need to grow up, deal with their issues %26amp; leave the child out of any left over angst. If this means 10 years worth of weekly counseling, then so be it. Whatever it takes to make sure the child's best interests are served.<br><br /><br />As far as legal consequences for the non-custodial parent, I believe most states' custody laws demand that the custodial parent ';make the child available'; at the times outlined by the court's visitation schedule. I don't believe any state would approve of a parent ';hog-tying'; their child %26amp; forcing them to go somewhere that causes the child distress. If I were in that situation, on either side of it, I would make every effort to talk with my ex-spouse. If they refused, I would contact my attorney %26amp; see if I could get a court-ordered mediation to work out the situation. I would also ask my child what the problem was %26amp; if it were something I'd done, I would hope that I would be adult enough to face reality, accept responsibility for my own actions %26amp; go straight to the nearest psychologist's office for help.<br >I don't know about your state, but in my state the custodial parent is not allowed to talk bad about the non-custodial parent. It is part of the childrens rights to be able to live free of that sort of thing. And for the younger children, they are not allowed to refuse. Below is a quote from the standard visitation guidelines in Delaware from http://courts.delaware.gov/How%20To/Visi鈥?/a><br >My guess is that the parent with visitation has to call the police. And then the child could get taken into custody for running away, or truancy. If it is the child's decision, it is the child's consequences.<br >Depending on what state the law is as of age 12 the child can choose who he/she wants to live with and see. You can probably force the issue in court but will that really be beneficial to the child. In time he/she will make their own decision on their parents. Just be honest with them when the time comes.<br >unfortunately for you if the child feels unsafe around you whether manipulated or not (theres a reason you didn't get custody I assume, by your choice or the courts). If the kid doesn't want to visit you and is afraid of you, no judge in their right mind is going to force the child to do so.<br >You can't make the kid go if he doesn't want to, no matter how crappy the reasoning is.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-42355250426603147602010-05-13T22:31:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:31:23.799-07:00What if the child refuses to visit the non custodial parent?A 15 year old has been alienated from the non custodial parent by the custodial parent nd manipulated that the non custodial parent is ';bad'; or not ';good enough'; and what not (false).<br><br /><br />Either way. There is joint legal custody. Now the child refuses to visit the other parent. The legal papers set a visitation schedule. What what are the legal consequences for the non custodial parent if the child refuses suddenly to visit the non custodial parent<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />My feeling it's a setup.What if the child refuses to visit the non custodial parent?<br >Take it back to the judge and bring the 15 year old for their opinionWhat if the child refuses to visit the non custodial parent?<br >If there is true parental alienation involved, yes, I would be suspicious %26amp; contact my attorney. In my experience with this situation, the child (a teenager) refuses to see their non-custodial parent due to 1) that parent refusing to respect the child's decision to live with the custodial parent, 2) the non-custodial parent's insistance on continuing to try to manipulate %26amp; bribe the child into moving back in with them %26amp; 3) attempting to use the child in games with the custodial parent, even though the child sees right through these actions. Not to mention 4) the fact that out of a 30-day visitation with the non-custodial parent, the child got about 6 hours of one-on-one visitation. The rest was spent accompanying the parent on dates with their significant other (not a spouse, just a live-in) or at a friend's house when three was considered a crowd. The child in question has confronted the non-custodial parent 3 times about the distrust caused by these actions, but has been literally blown off. The non-custodial parent refuses to even acknowledge the child's concerns. I can't blame the child for not wanting to visit %26amp; put up with these circumstances. <br><br /><br />In my humble opinion, both of these parents need to sit down with the child %26amp; discuss the child's feelings, the source of those feelings %26amp; face the reality that their divorce put this child in a position to choose between the two households. They each had a 50/50 shot at the child choosing their household. Since they put the child in that position, they should have been prepared to face the fact that they might draw the long straw. The ';losing'; parent needs to accept the child's decision %26amp; deal with it (unless the other parent's home is detrimental to the CHILD, not the non-custodial parent's ego). One PARENT divorced the other PARENT. It's unfair to expect the children to divorce them, too. The parents both need to grow up, deal with their issues %26amp; leave the child out of any left over angst. If this means 10 years worth of weekly counseling, then so be it. Whatever it takes to make sure the child's best interests are served.<br><br /><br />As far as legal consequences for the non-custodial parent, I believe most states' custody laws demand that the custodial parent ';make the child available'; at the times outlined by the court's visitation schedule. I don't believe any state would approve of a parent ';hog-tying'; their child %26amp; forcing them to go somewhere that causes the child distress. If I were in that situation, on either side of it, I would make every effort to talk with my ex-spouse. If they refused, I would contact my attorney %26amp; see if I could get a court-ordered mediation to work out the situation. I would also ask my child what the problem was %26amp; if it were something I'd done, I would hope that I would be adult enough to face reality, accept responsibility for my own actions %26amp; go straight to the nearest psychologist's office for help.<br >I don't know about your state, but in my state the custodial parent is not allowed to talk bad about the non-custodial parent. It is part of the childrens rights to be able to live free of that sort of thing. And for the younger children, they are not allowed to refuse. Below is a quote from the standard visitation guidelines in Delaware from http://courts.delaware.gov/How%20To/Visi鈥?/a><br >My guess is that the parent with visitation has to call the police. And then the child could get taken into custody for running away, or truancy. If it is the child's decision, it is the child's consequences.<br >Depending on what state the law is as of age 12 the child can choose who he/she wants to live with and see. You can probably force the issue in court but will that really be beneficial to the child. In time he/she will make their own decision on their parents. Just be honest with them when the time comes.<br >unfortunately for you if the child feels unsafe around you whether manipulated or not (theres a reason you didn't get custody I assume, by your choice or the courts). If the kid doesn't want to visit you and is afraid of you, no judge in their right mind is going to force the child to do so.<br >You can't make the kid go if he doesn't want to, no matter how crappy the reasoning is.<li><a href='http://lotion-cream-f.blogspot.com/'>lotion cream</a></li>Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-18356242080957250702010-05-13T22:31:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:31:07.110-07:00As a single parent in Canada, is there a better way to calcuate my taxes?I typically claim my son as a dependant, but I was told that I should file as ';head of household'; and treat him as a partner. Could someone clarify whether this is possible or allowed?<br><br /><br />Thanks!As a single parent in Canada, is there a better way to calcuate my taxes?<br >You can claim him as an eligible Dependant which used to be called equivalent to spouse, It will give you more of a deduction and more of the benefits like cctb ect. Only one parent can claim this so in joint custody situations, it has to be worked outAs a single parent in Canada, is there a better way to calcuate my taxes?<br >I think the person who gave you that advice was american; that doesn't sound like Canadian tax rules. There is no such thing as ';head of household';<br >There is no such thing as ';head of the household'; in Canada. Your son is an equivalent to spouse for tax purposes, that is the best way to claim him in Canada.<br >yep, Kathy's right.<br >kathy r is correctScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-44043386353900063882010-05-13T22:30:00.003-07:002010-05-13T22:30:51.642-07:00What should a parent do if child potties his pants while in the corner because he was afraid to ask ?If he could use the restroom because he was told not to leave the corner?What should a parent do if child potties his pants while in the corner because he was afraid to ask ?<br >If a child is in the corner on account of misbehaving, then he/she shouldn't be there any longer than one minute per age. It may not seem like long to an adult but any amount of time is like an infinity to a child. The child shouldn't have been there long enough to have had an accident, really...What should a parent do if child potties his pants while in the corner because he was afraid to ask ?<br >It really depends on the situation did the child potty in his pants to get back at the parent for putting him in the corner in the first place,kind of like I'll show you type of thing? Or were they just truly scared to ask because they knew the parent was really angry and they were afraid to ask to leave the corner? Really depends on the situation so the parent needs to be calm and sweet and sit down and have a talk with the kid depending on the childs age and reasoning ability.<br >Let them know that it is an exception to the rule, but not an excuse to come out of the corner every time.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />I personally would apologize that ';I didn't know he had to go and would not have made him have an accident'; and let him know he can always go to the bathroom when he needs to. That way he'll realize no one is mad or blames him for the accident and not be afraid to speak up next time.<br >we have this rule with time outs<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />if you have to go tell who ever put you in the corner so they know your going<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />since when does a child in there own home need permission to use the toilet<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />its like having guests over and demanding they ask every time they need to go<br >explain to him he doesn't need to be afraid of you. and he needs to always use to toilet no matter the situation. Tell him that next time there's no excuse.<br >Well, its the parents fault! If they get mad it should not be at the child! it's obvious the child was to scared to tell them he had to go pee!<br >That is the parent's fault for making him stay there all day.<br >Why in the world would a child be afraid to ask?<br >Grandma, changing your name doesn't mean we can't still tell its you<br >please tell how old the child is and how long he was in the corner for...<br >boy doesnt that just scream.......SOMETHING IS WRONG THERE.what is wrong with his parents,thats heartbreakingScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-82064708699664910592010-05-13T22:30:00.002-07:002010-05-13T22:30:34.814-07:00What is the process of adoption with a child whose parent signs away their legal rights?My boyfriend's daugthers mother may do this, and if so, I would like to adopt. Does anyone know what the process is, even if it's brief?What is the process of adoption with a child whose parent signs away their legal rights?<br >Laws are different state to state. My husband is about to begin the process of adopting my daughter that he's been raising since birth. The biological father left me shortly after I told him I was pregnant and hasn't been a part of her life ever. The law in Michigan as I understand it so far is that we had to be married for a year first before he can adopt and the courts won't let the biological father ';sign off'; until and unless there is a father ready to adopt and/or the biological father has had no contact and hasn't paid child support in 2 years. Search online for your states laws or contact your local department of human serivces - they're a good place to start.What is the process of adoption with a child whose parent signs away their legal rights?<br >You'll need to get an attorney, which isn't tremendously expensive (ours was $500 plus paperwork and filing fees). She and you will sign consent to adopt papers, and you will file that you wish to adopt the baby. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />You'll have to have a home study done by a private social worker. Get this started ASAP, as it takes a while. You'll have a few visits before and after the baby is born, to make sure that your parenting plan, your home, and your background is parenting material. Look up the questions online, and have the answers typewritten out when they get there, which will save time and money. Have your ID ready, and you'll probably have to travel to her office after the first visit, with notarized documents, and possibly fingerprints done by a certified police officer in order to get criminal checks done.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Research the laws in your state, because they can be so different from state to state. After the birth of the baby, she'll have a stated amount of time to change her mind, and it happens, so you'll need to be emotionally ready for that unfortunately. If it is possible in your state to sign consent forms before the baby is born (even though she can change her mind afterwards), I'd have it done, that way, God forbid, if she screws up and tests positive for drugs or something at the baby's birth, you'll already have the process started and can have it where the baby doesn't go into the foster care system first, which can be a nightmare! This happened during our son's birth, that just one time she did something that showed up in his body at birth, and if we hadn't had the paperwork done, we would have lost him.<br >Has your boyfriend signed the birth certificate or taken a parenity test? If the mother signs away her rights, then he will be the sole parent. If you were married to him, I believe you would be able to adopt her.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-32875750741047923772010-05-13T22:30:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:30:18.239-07:00How would someone go about becoming legally independent of their parent/guardian under 18?I want to move out of my parents house, and I'm under the age of 18. I have arrangements already to get my own place, and everything. Financially I'm straight. So how would I go about becoming legally independent?How would someone go about becoming legally independent of their parent/guardian under 18?<br >get emancipated, think three times before you do this i don't know your situation but i also don't want you to regret what you are doing. My brother emancipated himself at 16, my sister moved out at 16 but to my dad's..and both of them seem to have some sort of regret yet their pride kept them going.How would someone go about becoming legally independent of their parent/guardian under 18?<br >Jazmine, uncertain as to where you live. But where I am in Canada kids can move out and live independently at age 16. I'd find out if this is the age in your area first and if it is then just advice them of your plans. But remember they are your folks and are going to be a little hurt and might even be a little sad about this news and give you the thousand questions about how are you going to support yourself etc. But if you have a good plan then you can just explain it to them and hopefully they will support you. And remember also that they will always be there for you and would be happy to make the odd care package for you. Also do not leave on bad terms as it can create lots of problems, but most can be worked out quickly, and through live you are all going to need and rely on each other whether you want to admit it or not. Jeez I am really started to sound my age. Ha! Best of luck.<br >Want some Paypal cash?<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />You just need to be 13 years old, you answer surveys, but it actually works. I have 18 dollars at the moment, and still gaining money. If you don't believe me, they have proof on their forums or people being paid!http://www.treasuretrooper.com/433117<br >wait.<br><br /><br />don't jump into anything like that so soon.<br><br /><br />you're pushing yourself way to hard on adult hood.<br><br /><br />you'll be wanting to live with your parents when the bills start to pile up.<br >Uh, run away? But that's not legalScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-23475269431451727442010-05-13T22:30:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:30:03.411-07:00What were some things you didnt anticipate about being a parent?When pregnant, what were some of your unrealistic expectations and what were some things about parenting you just didnt expect and got you by surprise? <br><br /><br />Any advice for a new parent?What were some things you didnt anticipate about being a parent?<br >As a guy there are two things I did not anticipate while my wife was pregnant. The first is when the doctor held up our daughter, that I would turn to mush. It is an instant love that is like no other feeling in the world. The second thing I did not anticipate is what a good father I would be. Growing up I did not have the best father and I thought his negative influences would rub of on me, but I have taken all the negative things I did not look about my dad and have promised myself and my wife I would never act that way towards our daughter. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />My greatest advice to you is that everyone thinks they know better than you do about parenting. Your parents are going to try to tell you techniques they used when you were a child, strangers and friends are even going to throw in their two cents. Only you and your husband or the baby's father know what is best for your child. There is nothing wrong with combining your values with your parents values of religion, school or family etc.. but you have to integrate them with your own. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Also, make sure you make time for yourself. I know my wife struggles with being a working mother. One thing about being a dad is that there is not the maternal instinct that a mother has. While I may love getting my daughter ready for bed, it is also very easy for me to spend a night out at the ballgame. Mothers have a very different mentality, their family becomes the most important thing to them and they sometimes forget to spend a night out with the girls or just take in a movie or get a manicure. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Good luck!What were some things you didnt anticipate about being a parent?<br >I thought Id have a GREAT baby who slept a lot %26amp; hardly ever cried... WRONG! I say, hope for the best, expect the worst!<br><br /><br />I never anticipated just how much sleep I would lose, or how hard it would be at times.... But I also never anticipated how much I could love my little baby! <br><br /><br />Its hard, but its totally worth it! Take LOTS of pictures- They grow so fast %26amp; you cant turn time back! The past almost 4 months since my son was born, I feel like the time has FLOWN by!!!<br >When I was pregnant, I wanted to be the mom who would breastfeed and pump when I went back to work. I had this vision of me offering my breast to him at lunch and as soon as I got home, and pumping after each feeding and in the early morning. That dream is gone. My baby chose the bottle over me and I'm just no good at pumping. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />I also had visions of him smiling and laughing for me and loving me. He loves his daddy more. And he looks just like him too! Gone was the vision of him sharing my features. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />I didn't expect all the skin problems...my son's dry, rough cheeks, rashy neck from spit ups, heat rash on his arms, diaper rash even though we change him frequently. He hardly wore those cute clothes I bought him and now he's outgrown them at only 3 months. *sigh*<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Being a parent is hard work, but it'll be worth it all!<br >This will sound funny but, I honestly never thought Id be ';that mom'; in walmart with a screaming kid.....<br >I'll be honest~ When I was pregnant, I was focused on all of the ';fun'; times I would have w/ my son. He's now 16 months %26amp; we've had our share of ';not-so-fun'; times. What's going to happen when he hits terrible twos %26amp; his teen years?? lol:)<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />I guess you just have to take the good with the bad~ he's definitely worth it:) <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Good Question:)<br >I never knew how much I would love his baby laughter. I hope I can still remember the sound and the joy it brings me when he is all grown up.<br >The lack of sleep. Don't get me wrong - I KNEW there wasn't going to be a lot of sleep, but nothing really prepares you for it in real life. <br><br /><br />The way I got thru the first couple weeks was my husband and I slept in shifts. You need to recover from the birth and that involves sleep. He would take him for 5 or so hours, then I would. I am so glad we did it that way and if we have another child, will definitely do it that way again. <br><br /><br />Like the other poster said, I was NEVER going to let my child sleep with us in the bed. That went out the window at 2 weeks. He just sleeps so much better that way. I did plan on breastfeeding and did for about a week, but stopped. For me, it just did not work out. <br><br /><br />Another thing is you really can't prepare for is the feeling of responsibility you have for this little person. I don't mean this in a bad way at all. It's hard to even explain, you just do what needs to be done and you actually like it! <br><br /><br />And the first time I heard my son cry - it was the best, most wonderful feeling in the world. Even better than hearing the heartbeat on the ultrasound. I burst into tears myself. I never expected that :)<br >I knew I would be tired. But when it came down to it, I was delerious from exhaustion the first month at least, probably longer. That threw me for a curve, for sure.<br >I was worried about not being a good mom or not knowing what to do and when to do it. I never enticipated on it being so hard, I knew it was going to be hard but not this hard. But it all worked out and I think that I am a good mom and eventually got used to how hard it was. Although at times I think that I am over protective but thats just the mom in me. It will all come to you when the baby is born it did for me. If you need help or advice there are people that can help you out such as your mom and other family or friends with children.<br >Well, I didn't anticipate the recovery time being so tough on me the first few weeks. I never really gave much thought to the routine you have to go thru every time you use the bathroom, and the hormone induced mood swings-- i cried a lot the first 2 weeks. But, this all goes away so fast, that the memory is just a fog-- he's 12 weeks now, sweet as can be, and my body is feeling pretty much back to normal. My son was very colicy, so i did a lot of walking around to sooth him in those first few weeks-- so the pounds dropped right off! i gained a total of 45lbs while pregnant, and now i only have 5 lbs to go till i'm back at my pre-preg weight. My advice is to accept help if someone offers-- don't worry that you look terrible, or the house is a mess- if a friend and/or relative offer to come over to help, or just to keep you company- SAY YES!! you'll be so glad you did. good luck!!!<br >How much FUN it is! Everyone tells you omg it's so much work and you will hate the late nights and the responsibility and blah blah, and it is work, but it's so much fun too! Everytime I see my daughter smile it makes all my bad days good again :) I know I'm going to make mistakes, I know I'm going to screw up on things, but I know I'm doing the best I can w/ the knowledge I have now. She will turn out fine and going into parenting knowing I'm not going to be perfect has helped a ton :) You will do great! Good luck<br >My expectations when I was pregnant were things like- ';I'm not going to give my baby a pacifier';, and ';My baby is only going to sleep in her co-sleeper, or her crib.'; Blah, blah, blah. When that baby comes out, you are willing to do ANYTHING to make her comfortable enough to stop crying. I would have let that baby sleep on my FACE if it meant I could get some sleep! LOL! My advice? Just let things happen naturally. Don't beat yourself up trying to maintain this ';I'm not going to do this';, ';I'm only going to do that.'; kind of attitude. Just do whatever feels right. Best of luck to you!Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-15200655437054255762010-05-13T22:29:00.002-07:002010-05-13T22:29:47.808-07:00What questions should I ask in an interview with a parent about their parental involvement experience?I am doing a project for my early childhood education class. I need to interview a teacher or parent about their parental involvement experience. What questions should I ask them?What questions should I ask in an interview with a parent about their parental involvement experience?<br >Don't ask questions that will get you ';yes'; or ';no'; answers. Ask something like - What would you do in this situation?What questions should I ask in an interview with a parent about their parental involvement experience?<br >Ask them to describe a typical day with the child and take notes. Ask you questions from there. Ask open-ended questions, you get a lot more like that. Like say they make a comment, ask, can you elaborate on that?<br >You could start off by asking if they have children. Then, if they have no children, how much experience with babies and children they have. How would they handle certain situations (eg a child is throwing a tantrum in the middle of town or a supermarket, how would you handle it?) How would you go about disaplining a child? Do they agree with certain ways like spanking or spanking with a paddle etc.<li><a href='http://lotion-cream-f.blogspot.com/'>lotion cream</a></li>Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-37220994033727326222010-05-13T22:29:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:29:31.338-07:00What should a parent do if they cant support their child financially?I have 2 write a paper for english and wanted to know what every 1 thought about this.What should a parent do if they cant support their child financially?<br >Hmm just two short years ago I was in this situation. Thrown out on my **** by my ex, unable to work due to complications with my pregnancy, living off less than $600 a month in a city where rent is over $1000 for a studio apartment.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />What did I do? I swallowed my pride and asked for social assistance, got into subsidized housing and lived with my brother until my townhouse was ready. I took my full year maternity leave then got a job far better than the one I had left. I now make more than enough to support my daughters and myself. There were trips to the food bank and second hand clothes, a bus pass instead of a car and no coffee dates with friends but we made it.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Being poor is not a lifestyle unless you make it one, it is a situation that can be changed and is not permanent. Nobody should be pressured to place their child for adoption based on finances alone.What should a parent do if they cant support their child financially?<br >Get a another job if they need too, look into government programs. And of course stop brining kids into this world that they cant afford, even more if they can barely afford to take care of the ones that they already have.<br >Depends on why they are having trouble. There are agencies that give help to people that need it. Churches give food to those in need. United Way and Salvation Army help people pay electric bills so they have electricity. You can also go to family members for help. There are also those people unfortunately, that just need to get off their lazy butt and get a job.<br >They should get a job, or get a better job, or get another job, or stop making babies they can't support<br >Get some government assistance...foodstamps...welfare....WIC鈥? Just go to your local health department or Social Services<br >get a job. a spouse. sacrifice-walk instead of owning a car, or own a super cheap one, no cable, dining out, internet, those things that are unnecessary....shop at second hand stores and yard sales for clothing. join your counties freecycle to get furniture, toys, clothes, etc. have a strict budget.<br >They should seek assistance through Social Services. No parent should be forced to give up a child for adoption due to finances, but they often need help to get better jobs, education or simply an affordable rent.<br >Get help! There are plenty of programs out there designed to help parents and families who are having financial difficulties.<br >A parent should get a job %26amp; all the help they can get from programs like Wic....ect. If the $$ they are currently making is not enough to provide the necessities - then go get a better job (even if that means 2 jobs). Being poor is most of the time a choice that people make. Anyone can come into a bad situation, it's what you do with the situation that shows a persons true colors. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Oh yea, I feel like finances alone are not a good enough reason to give up your child for adoption. If people can't afford the child they have ----quit having more!!!!<br >Are you wanting just the gravy? Being a parent is taking the good with the bad, no one has ever promised that life is one big party. You and every one else will always have bad days, the trick is to look forward to the days of sunshine. I raised my kids, through a lot of bad times, that seemed serious at the time, but when it was over, it didn't seem that bad. So listen to the laughter and the crying, it is worth it.<br >First of all, they need to make sure they cant have any more kids. There are to many people that get help from the state thta really dont need it bc they are to damn lazy to get a job. o to Micky d's wendys somewhere is get one to help you out. Sorry may get some thumbs down but if you cant take care of your kids then why should go you have to go on the states programs to provide if you dont want to help yourself. I am for people getting on it as long as they get the help they need and get a job., There is a difference of helping you for a few months until you get on your feet but dont abuse the system. Get a job and do what ever you can but dont abuse the system<br >depends. what do you mean exactly by finacially support? if they can provide food, shelter and health care thats all these spoiled kids today need anyways<br >If they don't think they will ever be able to support the child or they just aren't good parents, they should put the child up for adoption. Then they can get their lives back together and the child will have a better life. Or, they can let the child stay with relatives for a while so they can get better jobs and things of that nature.<br >Depends on if it's long term or short term. If they feel that they will not be able to support a child for the long haul then they should consider adoption maybe something like an open adoption where they recieve pictures and letters about how the child is doing. If it is a short term doubt of financial stability then they should look in to the government assistance provided above by another poster.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-22404050194648628862010-05-13T22:29:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:29:14.144-07:00Can a single parent go full time to college for a 4 year degree and still receive TANF welfare benefits?My daughter is a single parent with two children, and she wants to finish her degree and become a school teacher. Is she eligible for the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) program if she is a full time student in a 4-year college?Can a single parent go full time to college for a 4 year degree and still receive TANF welfare benefits?<br >The easy way to find this out is to web search TANF eligibility requirements for your state. Example tanf eligibility Maine.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Her income will be considered as well as that of anyone lives in her household.Can a single parent go full time to college for a 4 year degree and still receive TANF welfare benefits?<br >YES! Most states require a certain amount of hours a week of work or school. Like in California they require at least 32 hours. It is really nice because you can get a second chance to go back to school and not have to worry about other things. This is what I am doing at the moment. There is a time limit some states 2 years, or like here its 5 years. You can get up to your BS or BA after that your school will not count for your activity, the only exception is if you are going for teaching then they will let you continue school.<br >her best bet would be to talk the DHS. TANF is usually a 2 year LIFETIME program so she could only get it for 2 years student or not. Different states may have different rules on that. She could probably get child care paid and food stamps anyway.. that would help.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-47075418956769074112010-05-13T22:28:00.003-07:002010-05-13T22:28:58.504-07:00When should a parent introduce children to TV and cartoons?Ive heard that children shouldnt be allowed to watch cartoons till they are 3 or more. Is that true and why?When should a parent introduce children to TV and cartoons?<br >there's not much mental stimulation involved. the content is being fed to them, theyre not doing any mental work.When should a parent introduce children to TV and cartoons?<br >I'm not a parent, but just a highschool student. Although i did a research project this year on media violence and how it affects children. I learned alot about the psycology of kids and the affect of television. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />In the end it all depends on what they watch and for how long. Kids are spondges and take things in like crazy, so seeing somthing violent (NOT saying you would show them somthing violent) or just a little mean they can soak in in many different ways. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />If they were to watch TV i think it would be pbs or noggin or a kid friendly station, butonly for about 1/2 an hour and 3 sounds about right. If you consider these cartoons. But if you are talking about cartoon network or nickalodean(spelling?) you should wait untill about 8.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Kids can be so connceted to TV, and its sad. They learn alot from it..weather its good or bad can be determinded on WHAT they are watching and not necisarily WHEN.<br >According to John Taylor Gatto watching children can be damaging to young children, it is much better to read them books which gives them a chance to develop their memory skills (by hearing the same stories over and over) and their imaginations. With TV the kids don't use their imaginations because they don't have to create the stories in their head the way they do with books. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Personally I think that they shouldn't watch tv at all, but when you do let them watch TV you should start with DVDs of cartoons etc so that they aren't bombarded with advertising etc.<br >it is true because even cartoons now a day have that rude humor and they say tv effects a young mind it has been proven that if you give a child a book at 3 and teach it how to read the child will turn out to be sucessful but if you give a 3 year old child the remote and let him or her watch anything on tv they have a smaller chance of becoming sucessful as they say you must put your child on the right track and the fast track too you should supervise children 12 and under while watching tv at all times they might not be on the best track at the time but you can guide them atleast so they have a sucessful future and the future they deserve i would say at 3 but if your really worried 4 will be fine but remember SUPERVISE and OBSERVE and PARENTAL CONTROL and TIME LIMIT remember that and you should be fine<br >Well, when my children were babies and my husband wasn't home and I had to take a shower, I put on a baby video for them to watch. But that was very rare. My children didn't watch tv until they were about 2 1/2 or so, and it was only toddler shows. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Even now at 4 1/2 and 9, they are not allowed to watch certain cartoons like that Jetix stuff on Toon Disney and violent cartoons. They like to watch movies a lot, Disney movies mostly.<br >My son started watching Blue's Clues at about 2 years old. He wasn't interested too much but it had to be on, even if he wasn't in the room.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Now he watches all sorts of shows like Dora, Diego, Elmo, Cars, Charlotte's Web and Blue's Clues. He's till the same way though; it HAS to be on but he won't ever sit down and watch it. He'll either be playing with his toys or in another room. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />I think the educational cartoons such as Blue's Clues are good for kids. It teaches them alot from their numbers, letter to colors and shapes. My son has known all his letters %26amp; numbers since he's been 2 1/2 and he actually KNOWS the letters/numbers; he didn't memorized the order. He actually is just learning the order of numbers and letters. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />But shows aren't a replacement for parental interaction and learning. They're just a nice break for mommy when she needs one!<br >Ideally a parent should introduce a child to TV and cartoons when they have reached the age of 35. At that time the child will be grown up and have realized that life does not revolve around the boob tube.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />The younger your child starts watching TV, the more prone to emotional, intellectual and physical issues they will have throughout their lives.<br >my daughter watches it and has since she came home from the hospital. not that she should though. They say that because the early years are very important for brain stimulation. They are learning that their arms hands feet and legs etc are controlled by them. Developing pincer grasp learning to pull up crawl sit up and walk. All these different things are what they should be working on. If you need something to do its reccomended that you take them outside to play (if too young then talk to them about what you/they see and what is going on around you.) Or you can pull out alphabet blocks etc. Help them learn to build them up and knock them down. Hope this helped and was informative.<br >My daughter watched a limited amount of TV from 12mos and what she watched was closely monitered by me. For cartoons she watched Little Bear and some others (can't remember names). She is old enough to watch TV by herself now but she still asks if she can turn it on. Animal Planet, Discovery and History are her favorite channels.<br >Ok i got tv in grade 4 this really influenced my social life for LIFE for worse.... but yea i know a little more since I read books. BUT since i got tv i couldnt stop watching it (and PC) because i wasnt used to it so I would say one year before grade one...<br><br /><br />Also dont force him to read, the love of reading is very hard to give but very nessacary for basic knoladge.... give him lots of cartoons (not for presents but just let it lay there for him to read)<br >DON'T have them watch tv!!!! OMG they're gonna get hooked on friggen Hannah Montana and Dora the Explorer and all that crap!!!<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Have them watch the old Disney movies. Like Cinderella and Dumbo, and that sort of stuff. Don't get them hooked on stuff like Dora, because I promise you, that show is scaaarrrryyyyyy, and they will turn out talking just like her. Loud. And obnoxious. And people will be able to point out, ';wow that person grew up watching Dora the Explorer.'; <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />nobody wants that...lol<br >only reason i would know is that when children are young they might get the impression that you can do the things on cartoons in real life (since they can't tell the difference yet.) but you can have the kid watch cartoons for kids now a days cause they changed a lot from looney tunes and the older kids stuff<br >Its your child and your choice. There are some really good programs that stimulate a childs mind. Of course your teaching is the best but realistically there is alot to be done in a days time. So a lil tv is fine as long as it doesnt become the babysitter.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />For ppl who say they would never let there kids watch tv, what would you rather they do. Lean over your shoulder so they read your posts online? Get real, the internet is worse than watching tv. Its all fine within limits and moderation.<br >My daughter is 17 month old and we have just recently let her watch tv. We tried for month to get her to eat breakfast, unless we forced her she would just play. We started putting on public tv and she is so distracted by it that she isnt really aware that she is eating. Its good for us becuase shes under weight and it takes alot for her to gain some.<br >They say not to allow any TV before the age of 2. We always have the TV in the background, though. My kids (ages 6, 3, and 2) are far from addicted, they would rather play. *I* don't see a problem with them watching it younger, it's really more a personal preference.<br >Lots of people don't let their children watch tv at all...I say everything in moderation and with good judgement. My children watch tv..but not all the time and I monitor their shows..educational are normally the ones we prefer..try SUPER WHY...they really learn to spell and enjoy learning their letters. :-)<br >That's about the age I let my daughter watch t.v.. She's now 4 1/2 yrs. old and I let her watch an hour or so of the Disney Channel so I can shower and get chores done around the house. Too much t.v. is not a good thing- fresh air is better for them.<br >My son is 3 months old %26amp; sometimes he will glance at the tv if it is on.I do not redirect his attention.I see no need.I wouldn't leavea child to watch tv for hours at a time,but a little while here and there,won't hurt anything.<br >I think it's because it helps them develope creativity. Read to your kid. My mom did to me and I loved it more than T.V. Spending time with parents is a kid's favorite thing at that age.<br >nah it helps them learn to talk and stuff i put my neice in front of the tv to watch blues clues and shes starting to talk shes a smarrty pants!<br >TV can be good and stimulating, but just dont let them watch it loads because they turn into indoor-lovers and even start developing the common accents and sayings<br >i'd say 2 or 3 is an appropriate age to start watching cartoons but make sure they don't watch too much and start them off by watching movies rather than tv.<br >depends on the cartoons and the content....there are tv channels dedicated to babies.....but tv is never an equal substitute for reading to them<br >as soon as there born<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />sit down, and watch tv while you feed yo baby<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />that's what my parents did to me and i turned out fine (twitch twitch)<br >1000000000<br >Anytime. TV is entertaining and a big step in a kid learning about the real world<br >Never! Personally I wouldn't want my children to ever watch tv.<br >yes it's the best thing ever invented<br >no some children are not even interested watching tv till they are 2 -3 years old.<br >at birth, LOL<br >Never!<br><br /><br />It poisons their minds!Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-11750264121238811512010-05-13T22:28:00.002-07:002010-05-13T22:28:43.403-07:00What is a good activity for 2 yr olds and parent on phase in day?I am getting 10 new 2 year olds next week, and I have been planning on just having parents stay and participate in the normal morning routine as much as they are able. This will prevent parents from feeling overly obligated to stay if their morning schedule is tight, but will make everyone feel welcome to stay. Since routine is so important, I decided to skip a special morning activity and focus on transitioning to the more formal schedule that we will have in this new classroom. I am looping with my kids (I have had about half of them since they were 4 months old). Not sure what type/structure of program you are in, but this works well with our Reggio inspired philosophy.What is a good activity for 2 yr olds and parent on phase in day?<br >Children love being messy especially younger children maybe you could do a parent and child painting or craft session, messy but worth the big smiles and fun memories!What is a good activity for 2 yr olds and parent on phase in day?<br >the best activity for a two year Old is dancing,playing outside,making or playing puppets,and painting.<br >You should read a book with them and make sure they can see the pictures so they understand<br >just boil em:)))Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-30080908269893387642010-05-13T22:28:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:28:27.902-07:00What are the punishments for getting caught driving without a parent in Texas?I know it was stupid but I did it and got caught.<br><br /><br />I have a permit and a clean record what do you think is going to happen, i have a scheduled court day already.What are the punishments for getting caught driving without a parent in Texas?<br >I don't know about TX but here in CT, if you get caught driving without a parent and just have your permit, then when when you finally get your license, I believe it gets suspended for 6 months. I am not sure, but I know your license does get suspended. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Srry to hear about that, hope it works out for ya.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-83144182729755678222010-05-13T22:28:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:28:12.480-07:00How can a parent do research on a new school?I just moved from Atlanta to the DC/Maryland area and I found out what elementary school my son will be attending in the fall. It is a public school and he will being going to the 2nd grade.I want to know what kinds of things besides test scores should I look at to see if this is a good school.How can a parent do research on a new school?<br >The key elements in any school is the quality of the teachers and Principal./ One way to tell is the education level of the faculty and how long they have been teaching./<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />The sites below will be very helpful in evaluating schools.How can a parent do research on a new school?<br >One thing you can see is the areas school taxes. Another thing you can look at is the income levels. And disposable income levels there. The higher these are the better chance the school district will be better. Since your child is going into 2nd grade the school district is not that important right now, but if you want your child to get into college the SD matters at about the summer going into 8th grade. That's when the SD matters since by them your child should be taking advanced classes in school. A last point is that in the DC/Maryland area most of the schools are very good, since many political figures send there children to private schools, and still have to pay school taxes the money is put into your child's public school.<li><a href='http://lotion-cream-f.blogspot.com/'>lotion cream</a></li>Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-22869554332550990722010-05-13T22:27:00.003-07:002010-05-13T22:27:54.218-07:00Can a narcissistic parent lead to a child developing an anxiety disorder?Have you ever heard of this happening?Can a narcissistic parent lead to a child developing an anxiety disorder?<br >havent heard of it before, but i would say, it's probable....<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />children need care n' attention especially from their parents....if their parents are narcissistic, the child would feel alone as they're giving attention to their parents, instead of the other way round...sometimes, their lack of emotional maturity would lead to anxisty disorder as they don't know what to do.....Can a narcissistic parent lead to a child developing an anxiety disorder?<br >this is a great question.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />i would belive so yes. maybe the child wouldn't get enough attention leading the kid to feeling alone, theres so many diffrent route that could take. but i think it couldScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-16485568297861959572010-05-13T22:27:00.002-07:002010-05-13T22:27:38.288-07:00How can a parent teach common sense to their 13 year old daughter?My daughter has no common sense. Why? How can I teach her common sense? or can I?How can a parent teach common sense to their 13 year old daughter?<br >Don't worry about that. I was like that to in that age!! She will understand herself, but if you presure her, that will just make it worse.<br><br /><br />Tell you what: Make sure her friends aren't retard (if you know what i mean) <br><br /><br /> the other reason is mabe she need s to read more. Grab a book.How can a parent teach common sense to their 13 year old daughter?<br >Unfortunately you cannot teach ';common sense';, however you can teach examples of how to use certain tools and how to try and think a situation through, why not give that a try.<br><br /><br />To the lady who said to read the bible and pray together, what the heck good is that when you're trying to sharpen pencil, sounds to me like you need a little common sense infusion love.<br >My older sister is as lacking in common sense (if not more so). She is 25 and still can't take care of herself, and not for lack of intelligence, just a lack of common sense. She'll let the car run out of transmission fluid because she doesn't think to ever check it or take it in to a place to check it, or she'll buy a dog because it's cute when she's living in an apartment that doesn't allow dogs and she can't afford rent as it is. Things like that.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Here's what I've learned vicariously through her - if you (as the parent) coddle and take care of your kid, she'll never improve. You need to let her make her own mistakes and suffer the consequences. Don't give her money when she overspends herself. Let her try to cut the pencil with scissors, and don't take it from her and do it correctly, let her fail at it.<br >Well, most teenagers haven't developed that ';common sense'; thing yet and make some pretty bone headed decisions. I keep waiting for my fifteen year old to finally ';get it.'; So, I think it's normal.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />My best advice, however, is Logical Consequences. Sometimes the natural effects of their choices are the best teachers.<br >Common sense like ';don't put a fork in the electrical out lit'; or common sense about life? As long as it doesn't hurt her physically I think it's time to let her fall. This is about the age that need to make there own mistakes and learn how to get out of problems, with out mom's help. There is no better teacher then life's experiences. So let her figure it out. At least now is she gets into to much trouble you can still help her out of it.<br >The pencil thing is rather strange of her to do....and at 13. Do you see other occurrences that just does not seam right? <br><br /><br />Her brain might just be wired differently. What we see as strange the child sees as normal. If her social structure with kids her own age is fine and she is not having problems at school just do your best to teach her such things. Knifes are never good to use for it could slip or what not. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />We can not teach common sense, this is why it is ';common';. We can teach how to use tools and the such.<br><br /><br />Wish you well....<br >omg! I run into this with my 6 year old everyday! She has an IQ of 145, is in the talented and gifted classes at school, and is extremely smart. She writes songs, books, does beautiful artwork, but yet when I told her to go in the bathroom and wash her face beacuse she had toothpaste on it, she couldn't find the washcloth, so she took a little bottle that used to have bodywash in it and filled it with water and was leaning over the sink, pouring the water all over. We were just walking out the door to go to the bus, and had to change her clothes. I dont know the answer you are looking for, but I would like to know myself!!!!!<br >first you need to learn paticence show her how to do it rite use it as a learning experiance for both of you <br><br /><br />if you are frustrated she will be also <br><br /><br />you are the teacher if she isnt learning its you that isnt doing your job rite<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />find ways for her to learn in a fun way you will both grow from it<br >Unfortunate, but true, there is no way to teach common sense. Either you have it, or you don't. <br><br /><br />She will learn through bad decisions -<br >well some people have common sense and others dont im not sure you can really teach it.<br >I don't think you can really teach it, especially not to teenages.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />just lead by example<br >Seriously how many people haven't sharpened their pencils that way before. I have!!<br><br /><br />As long as you show her right from wrong she will grow up safe and healthy<br >Lot's of competition with hormones. While you are explaining logic, she is thinkin duhhhhhhhhh I wonder if Toby likes me.<br >common sense is gained from experiences. no where else.<br >Ya know I never actually understood what 'common sense' was.<br >You need to provide a good example to her at all times. Read and study the Bible with her, and discuss with her our Lords wishes for us to follow.<br><br /><br />Pray together, have unity as a family and keep a good moral grounding.<br><br /><br />God bless xxScotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-42370562627150687312010-05-13T22:27:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:27:22.984-07:00How to let parent see what websites their child is visiting?Is there a way, besides just checking the history, to tell what website a child is going to while its happening. Like a program on the parent's computer that keeps track of what is happening on the childs computer as its happening?<br><br /><br />I'm asking for my sister who is trying to catch her mischievous preteen son. How to let parent see what websites their child is visiting?<br >Well im a parent and i know u must control what they are doing i have a thing for you..no one will ever know its there its locked theyll never see it aand it records all web sites visited and all typed on key board and its free here you go learn it well u will love it.a single dad...steve<br><br /><br />http://www.spyarsenal.com/How to let parent see what websites their child is visiting?<br >i do understand and im glad i helped you..steve <p><span>Report Abuse</span></p><br /> <br >wow.. i think it is so stuiped that you are trying to see what is happening just because he'll see a few naked people and maby see what sex is who cares better he find out on his own then being ambaresed by his parents<br >You can use parental controls or monitoring software which will allow you to see all the chats, emails, website etc. <br><br /><br />http://www.delete-computer-history.com/i鈥?/a><br >stalker status!!!<br >NO THATS JUST BAD PARENTING IT PEOPLE LIKE YOU MAKE THERE KIDS HATE THEM IN THE FUTURE<br >http://www.netnanny.com/<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />this worked for me in the past..good luck..ck it out..Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-18266146418789764512010-05-13T22:27:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:27:07.808-07:00What kind of parent would you be if you allowed children to treat each other cruelly?Simply because they have free will? But isn't that exactly what you say your Sky Daddy does with his children? But you can somehow excuse it for your Sky Daddy.What kind of parent would you be if you allowed children to treat each other cruelly?<br >God doesn't simply allow us to treat each other cruelly. He leaves absolutely no evidence of even his existence, much less his desires and expectations of us.What kind of parent would you be if you allowed children to treat each other cruelly?<br >you are trying to apply human standards to god and it will not work<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />no your example is not correct<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />a parent does not have control over their grown up children<br><br /><br />they do what they want and ignore what their parent tells them<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />God has given rules for his children to obey<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />if they rebel they will be punished for the wicked deeds they do.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />you can't punished some one for something they have not done yet.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />God gives people a chance to repent and turn from sin.<br><br /><br />If they do not they will be punished for their sins.<br >My children were not allowed to treat others cruelly(which was a HUGE challenge considering they were only 2 years apart), but every now and then they would slip up and do something not nice. When that happened i corrected them and explained why it would not and could not be tolerated, to me this is the same thing that God does with us.<br >If you allowed cruelty, you are not a good parent at all. Children have to be raise correctly to respect each other, not beat each other up or tease or cause hurt to someone. You do not know my Father God, so you can't speak of someone you know nothing about. But rest assured, He knows everything about you!<br >My two boys get into some real sh!t with each other - but then, I don't claim to be omnipotent and watching them every second either. If I was all-powerful (or could at least convince them I was), I could keep the big one from picking on the little one.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />And isn't that religion for you?<br >ahh, another childless expert on raising kids. gotta love it. have some of your own and see if you can stop them from being mean. you can discipline them, train them, even give them a good example (maybe), but you will not be able to control their actions. if you figure out a way to do that, write a book. you'll make millions.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />peace<br >You are a bitter person when it comes to God. I feel sorry for you. To answer your question, everyone will pay for their actions in the end in one way or another, Christian and non Christian alike.<br >Not everyone who believes in God believes that about Her.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Christianity and atheism aren't the only two choices, so stop pretending they are.<br >protip: sky daddy should never be capitalized<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />person, place or thing, remember?<br >God works in mulishes ways<br >Wouldn't it be easier to say, Jesus is not True God and True Man. <br><br /><br /><br><br /><br /> :)<br >First of all, free will is a gift from God and used incorrectly, there will be consequences. Cruelty is a learned behavior not necessarily inborn so I would say the parents who are representatives from God to nurture, teach,lead and love should be held accountable for their children's action. As far as my Heavenly Father is concerned, show me a scripture where God is cruel to His children. The question should be why does he allow punishment for the unforgiving, the liar, the cheat, the immoral degrade who insists that God does not exist nor does He have this universe in perfect control. What about that? Oh now, let's just talk about Free Will, oh yeah, right-----One day we shall all meet our Maker and recall our rebellion to His sovereignty in having the last say in everything in the world.<br >my three daughters are all grown and on their own-----I can no longer legally control their actions----though their Christian morals will keep them away from such cruelty---Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-45096919119622302592010-05-13T22:26:00.003-07:002010-05-13T22:26:49.749-07:00Where do the parent blackbirds sleep after their eggs have hatched?Do they still sleep in the nest with their offspring, or do they nest somewhere else?<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Or do they just roost?Where do the parent blackbirds sleep after their eggs have hatched?<br >One will roost while the other looks after the young, I think they take turns about to do the parenting!Where do the parent blackbirds sleep after their eggs have hatched?<br >after the eggs have hatched the female usually stays on the newborns after them, keeping them warm, and in the day feeding them, the male will stay close by, but not in the same nest, and he will keep an eye out for danger, to make sure the female and babysat perfectly safe<br><br /><br />hope i helped<br >One bird usually sleeps in the nest with the babes - keeps them warm and protected, while the mate roosts nearby to warn of any danger.<br >one bird will brood the young chicks (keep them warm) the other usually roosts nearby in a tree or bush. They only build one nest to lay eggs in.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-55854096195775328062010-05-13T22:26:00.002-07:002010-05-13T22:26:36.531-07:00How can my parent's call my little cousin from India to come here for school?My cousins that lives in India wants to come here for school because he doesn't like it much there. Well he's 13 and my parent's are willing to get him here and so are his parent's but what would the process be? We live in PA and I don't really know what paper work he would need and what needs to be done. Asking the school district didn't really seem to help much but does anyone know step by step what needs to be done?How can my parent's call my little cousin from India to come here for school?<br >Come to Canada and then get him over here. We have an open door to people from India. Just land your plane at Vancouver International Airport and you will think you were in Bombay by the looks of the people you first see.How can my parent's call my little cousin from India to come here for school?<br >Students who come to the US are supposed to come on an F-1 visa. A student can attend a private elementary or secondary school. The law also says that students can attend a US public high school but must reimburse the school for the full amount of tuition. The school district should be able to tell you what that is, but it could be around $10,000/year. The school district may also have custody/guardianship requirements that need to be complied with.<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />Once you identify the school your cousin wants to attend, he will need a SEVIS Form I-20 (DS-20) to apply for the F-1 visa. The SEVIS form certifies the school exists, that he has been admitted, and how the fees will be taken care of. With that, he applies for the F-1 visa at the US consulate.<br >Go see the people that handle immigrations.<li><a href='http://lotion-cream-f.blogspot.com/'>lotion cream</a></li>Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-58065319997454622802010-05-13T22:26:00.001-07:002010-05-13T22:26:19.043-07:00What is a good website where i can read student/parent reviews on high schools?i would really like to know the perspectives of the people that actually know a little about the schools... because usually i get the school's own account, and they sugar-coat and hide a lot of things.What is a good website where i can read student/parent reviews on high schools?<br >http://www.greatschools.net/<br><br /><br /><br><br /><br />they don't sugar-coat it on that website, it has ratings from parents and students. My school is rated 2 out of 5.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797062183830079785.post-76753609413252360812010-05-13T22:26:00.000-07:002010-05-13T22:26:02.505-07:00How can a parent leave the state with the child during child custody disputes?My fiance is going through a custody battle several states away. Recently I was told that if she leaves the she's in with the child then it would be considered kidnapping. I'm worried that I may have to wait years to see her again. So is possible for her and the child to temporarily leave their state without facing charges.How can a parent leave the state with the child during child custody disputes?<br >If there's no court order prohibiting her from going, it's not kidnapping. However, if she wants to leave, she is best advised to seek the court's permission to do. Otherwise, her ex could file a motion to make her bring the child back.Scotgnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02974745964555338239noreply@blogger.com0